Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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QUESTION: is this a sh!t test?

saywhen

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Friends with benefits chick meets ex.
Says she thinks she's super hot, and seems very much into me still.
Asks why I'm not with her (ex) or why I don't give her a second chance.

You guys think that's a sh!t test?
Maybe she was subtlety trying to see where I stand with her?

EDIT.

Sorry just to clarify. It was the FWB chick asking why I'm not with my ex or giving her a second chance. Obviously that's out of the question but this seems like a sh!t test on the FWBs part.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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TheException

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Sh1t test? Yes.....

How to pass? Say....."its complicated" and leave it at that. When in doubt use as few words as possible and be vague....dont be the chump spilling his feelings and problems all over women.
 

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There are no "sh!t tests" with women you're not dating/f*cking. Wanna know why? --> Because women you're not f*cking don't matter and therefore.. should NOT be occupying your thoughts AT ALL.

If you want to f*ck any of these women in your life.. then do it. If you can't.. then ignore their existence and meet new women. :up:
 

CrimsonPanther

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TheException said:
How to pass? Say....."its complicated" and leave it at that. When in doubt use as few words as possible and be vague...
THIS x 1000

women will hate AND love you for it. saying "it's complicated, let's talk about it later" was many times the difference between NC with a hottie, or making her a FWB. and my weenie prefers FWB over NC :D
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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happyDJ

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TheException said:
Sh1t test? Yes.....

How to pass? Say....."its complicated" and leave it at that. When in doubt use as few words as possible and be vague....dont be the chump spilling his feelings and problems all over women.

This (and understanding why it is so) is one of the top10 things to know with women, be it FWB, LTR or your mother/sister.

Extra points: If they keep asking, repeat exactly the same words, same tone: "it's complicated". They ask a third time: repeat exactly the same words. It ends there, I garantee you.
 

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Damn. I wont make this mistake again...

What i ended up saying was...

"well, i like you more.."

Hahaha
 

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ha ha ha ......i would have said because she cant keep up with me thats why............winked and walked away.
 

saywhen

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tripod23 said:
ha ha ha ......i would have said because she cant keep up with me thats why............winked and walked away.

Haha. Oh man. I like that one.

Next time
 

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She is really asking why you are sleeping with her.

You can say "Because I think you're hot!"

The question is not about the ex. Do not draw her into your answer, do not compare. This FWB is just asking a question out of insecurity about herself.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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