Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I know a girl who's boyfriend tried to lay downs those exact rules. What do you think happened? Maybe not a problem if your banging lots of girls and don't really care for your gf. Anyway, just my thoughts.DJDanny said:yes, but chances are you're never gonna know if they are, so don't waste your time worrying about it. If a chick feels the need to fill you in if she's banging other guys, unless it's a FB/FWB situation, it's next time.
Yeah, there is a double standard in expecting her to only be screwing you when you're dating multiple girls, but you're the prize if they want you they play by your rules.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
This.WC2 said:I've found when you're less worried about what guys a girl may be banging, because you've got your pick of the litter, she's more worried about the chicks you're banging. Self-consciously she will only want to bang you.
Of course, there are exceptions.
Hold on a minute here, who said anything about laying down rules?? That'd be stupid.Kal0051 said:I know a girl who's boyfriend tried to lay downs those exact rules. What do you think happened? Maybe not a problem if your banging lots of girls and don't really care for your gf. Anyway, just my thoughts.
hmm, misinterpreted your "play by your rules" comment. Lol, it sounded like what that guy did. My bad. And your right, it was stupid.DJDanny said:Hold on a minute here, who said anything about laying down rules?? That'd be stupid.