She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I know a girl who's boyfriend tried to lay downs those exact rules. What do you think happened? Maybe not a problem if your banging lots of girls and don't really care for your gf. Anyway, just my thoughts.DJDanny said:yes, but chances are you're never gonna know if they are, so don't waste your time worrying about it. If a chick feels the need to fill you in if she's banging other guys, unless it's a FB/FWB situation, it's next time.
Yeah, there is a double standard in expecting her to only be screwing you when you're dating multiple girls, but you're the prize if they want you they play by your rules.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
This.WC2 said:I've found when you're less worried about what guys a girl may be banging, because you've got your pick of the litter, she's more worried about the chicks you're banging. Self-consciously she will only want to bang you.
Of course, there are exceptions.
Hold on a minute here, who said anything about laying down rules?? That'd be stupid.Kal0051 said:I know a girl who's boyfriend tried to lay downs those exact rules. What do you think happened? Maybe not a problem if your banging lots of girls and don't really care for your gf. Anyway, just my thoughts.
hmm, misinterpreted your "play by your rules" comment. Lol, it sounded like what that guy did. My bad. And your right, it was stupid.DJDanny said:Hold on a minute here, who said anything about laying down rules?? That'd be stupid.