You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I know a girl who's boyfriend tried to lay downs those exact rules. What do you think happened? Maybe not a problem if your banging lots of girls and don't really care for your gf. Anyway, just my thoughts.DJDanny said:yes, but chances are you're never gonna know if they are, so don't waste your time worrying about it. If a chick feels the need to fill you in if she's banging other guys, unless it's a FB/FWB situation, it's next time.
Yeah, there is a double standard in expecting her to only be screwing you when you're dating multiple girls, but you're the prize if they want you they play by your rules.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
This.WC2 said:I've found when you're less worried about what guys a girl may be banging, because you've got your pick of the litter, she's more worried about the chicks you're banging. Self-consciously she will only want to bang you.
Of course, there are exceptions.
Hold on a minute here, who said anything about laying down rules?? That'd be stupid.Kal0051 said:I know a girl who's boyfriend tried to lay downs those exact rules. What do you think happened? Maybe not a problem if your banging lots of girls and don't really care for your gf. Anyway, just my thoughts.
hmm, misinterpreted your "play by your rules" comment. Lol, it sounded like what that guy did. My bad. And your right, it was stupid.DJDanny said:Hold on a minute here, who said anything about laying down rules?? That'd be stupid.