Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I know a girl who's boyfriend tried to lay downs those exact rules. What do you think happened? Maybe not a problem if your banging lots of girls and don't really care for your gf. Anyway, just my thoughts.DJDanny said:yes, but chances are you're never gonna know if they are, so don't waste your time worrying about it. If a chick feels the need to fill you in if she's banging other guys, unless it's a FB/FWB situation, it's next time.
Yeah, there is a double standard in expecting her to only be screwing you when you're dating multiple girls, but you're the prize if they want you they play by your rules.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
This.WC2 said:I've found when you're less worried about what guys a girl may be banging, because you've got your pick of the litter, she's more worried about the chicks you're banging. Self-consciously she will only want to bang you.
Of course, there are exceptions.
Hold on a minute here, who said anything about laying down rules?? That'd be stupid.Kal0051 said:I know a girl who's boyfriend tried to lay downs those exact rules. What do you think happened? Maybe not a problem if your banging lots of girls and don't really care for your gf. Anyway, just my thoughts.
hmm, misinterpreted your "play by your rules" comment. Lol, it sounded like what that guy did. My bad. And your right, it was stupid.DJDanny said:Hold on a minute here, who said anything about laying down rules?? That'd be stupid.