"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Quiksilver

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Five or six... Keep in mind some of them are just people who've been banned in the past and try to haunt the same house, so to speak.

The rest are trying to scam money and generally create a mess.

On occasion we have a vote about a controversial member, but it usually doesn't come to that(pms, warnings, etc.).

You might be next! ;)
 

Desdinova

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Yeah, about that many. Then, we have the occasional troll or spammer attack where about 10 accounts get banned on one day (remember the whole KKK flood?).

Then the moderators act like janitors, cleaning what the sick kid puked up in the hallway. :)
 

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Sounds about right.

Like Quiksilver said a few posters with severe mental problems will keep coming back after being banned multiple times for trolling. Instead of coming here they should seek professional help.

Then you have the spammers selling electronics, seduction tips, stock tips...ect.

Lastly you have the long term poster who goes crazy and gets banned. I've seen that happen a few times.

A few posters even asked to be banned so that they could stop using the site. Go figure.

I wish though that we didn't have to ban anyone.
 

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I've been banned twice for acting like an immature fvcking idiot. It can sometimes be a good kick in the nuts and a stern reminder to shape up or walk the plank.

It took my banning to realize what this place means to me and other brothers. Some guys just like to put thier ego out in front until they trip over thier own feet from not looking.

I don't envy the bullsh!t you guys put up with.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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realizing that couple of posters are actually the same person, even though you hated one, and liked the other....makes you really think about this internet thing and who your actually listening to.
 

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This ban is a classic:

in the thread New Banning Record.

SoSuave.com said:
ericgtr made his first post at 10:59 am and was banned at 11:00 am. :p
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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MacAvoy said:
Out of curiousity, what did PRL ever do to get banned and why does LMS have a unban PRL in his sig?
:crackup:

Sorry... Have you noticed any interesting similarities between the two?
 

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lol its been so long since I've seen PRL that all I remembered about him was the he was very vocal, loud & obnoxious, so can I see a similarity, hmmmm
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Quiksilver said:
This ban is a classic:

in the thread New Banning Record.
We've had some quick ones. One guy was banned as soon as he signed up...Go figure.

Here is a good question for you guys (Mods excluded): Name the only moderator to ever be banned.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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penkitten

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TheVirtualMind said:
We've had some quick ones. One guy was banned as soon as he signed up...Go figure.

Here is a good question for you guys (Mods excluded): Name the only moderator to ever be banned.
NSS..i win!!!
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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