"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Question for potential booty call

Flabbergasped?

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Alright, here's the situation.

There's this chick from my high school, HB7 I guess. We're in college now. Summer vacation's almost over.

I see her at some get-together by a friend. Everyone drinks a little. She says she's lightweight, and seems to get tipsy very fast. We go smoke hookah. While smoking, I kino. Butter her up real nice. She sits on my lap on the ride back.

We get back to my friend's place, pop in a movie and crash. She cuddles next to me, and after lots of buttering up, my hand is on her crotch and I'm rubbing over her pants. I'm about to put my hand against the flesh (i haven't started yet, but that's my plan) when she takes my hand and puts it away. She doesn't move from me though. I figure she stopped me because I was going to finger her pretty much in front of five people.

So, I figure I'll just take this from the top. I start licking her ears, rubbing her thigh, etc. Out of nowhere, she says it's late and she needs to go home. I remember that her mom is a paranoid psycho, and it is pretty late, so I figure I'll carry on next time.

I send her a txt saying "it was nice to see you, we should hang out, blah blah," and she's like, "yea, i was pretty drunk on saturday, hanging out sounds good."

The issue is, I don't want to actually hang out with her, I just want to bone. I have no car, and I'd rather not get picked up by her because, knowing myself, that would put me in a bad frame. Instead, I want to booty call her.

Given the above, and the fact that buyer's remorse is all over this situation, should I go for the kill, or stalk the prey a little longer (metaphorically speaking)? And if so, what should I say?

I haven't done this kind of thing, especially not with such a time gap. Maybe, "come over to my place to watch a movie, blah blah?"

I'm fairly confident in my ability to close, but how to get her here in the first place?
 
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Adrian

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"yea, i was pretty drunk on saturday, hanging out sounds good."
Yeah sure. :rolleyes:

It's your job to assure her that it's ok and that she isn't a slut.

As far as the ride is concerned. Borrow a ride or ask a friend. Can't help you too much there.
 

Adrian

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And lets not forget that these types of chicks tend to be very flakey and make cheap attempts to screw with your head (Sh1t Tests). She may be interested but feels the need to assure you and herself that she isn't a tramp.
 

Flabbergasped?

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Sorry, I meant her ears, I'll edit that.

I'm sure she'll flake, but I'm also sure that she's a horny biznatch. Her actions at my friend's house speak louder than words.

My dillema is, how do I avoid all the bs (hanging out with her around town) while still getting in her pants? Can it be done, given the type of person she is?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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socalrunner

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hang out wherever you have an open room with her, bring alcohol, a dvd, and music. thats all im going to tell you...you'll have to figure out the rest yourself but thats all you need to fvck any girl who is horny.
 

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Yeah bro, you should've isolated her. She sounded like she would've went for it.
 
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