"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Question for potential booty call

Flabbergasped?

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Alright, here's the situation.

There's this chick from my high school, HB7 I guess. We're in college now. Summer vacation's almost over.

I see her at some get-together by a friend. Everyone drinks a little. She says she's lightweight, and seems to get tipsy very fast. We go smoke hookah. While smoking, I kino. Butter her up real nice. She sits on my lap on the ride back.

We get back to my friend's place, pop in a movie and crash. She cuddles next to me, and after lots of buttering up, my hand is on her crotch and I'm rubbing over her pants. I'm about to put my hand against the flesh (i haven't started yet, but that's my plan) when she takes my hand and puts it away. She doesn't move from me though. I figure she stopped me because I was going to finger her pretty much in front of five people.

So, I figure I'll just take this from the top. I start licking her ears, rubbing her thigh, etc. Out of nowhere, she says it's late and she needs to go home. I remember that her mom is a paranoid psycho, and it is pretty late, so I figure I'll carry on next time.

I send her a txt saying "it was nice to see you, we should hang out, blah blah," and she's like, "yea, i was pretty drunk on saturday, hanging out sounds good."

The issue is, I don't want to actually hang out with her, I just want to bone. I have no car, and I'd rather not get picked up by her because, knowing myself, that would put me in a bad frame. Instead, I want to booty call her.

Given the above, and the fact that buyer's remorse is all over this situation, should I go for the kill, or stalk the prey a little longer (metaphorically speaking)? And if so, what should I say?

I haven't done this kind of thing, especially not with such a time gap. Maybe, "come over to my place to watch a movie, blah blah?"

I'm fairly confident in my ability to close, but how to get her here in the first place?
 
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Adrian

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"yea, i was pretty drunk on saturday, hanging out sounds good."
Yeah sure. :rolleyes:

It's your job to assure her that it's ok and that she isn't a slut.

As far as the ride is concerned. Borrow a ride or ask a friend. Can't help you too much there.
 

Adrian

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And lets not forget that these types of chicks tend to be very flakey and make cheap attempts to screw with your head (Sh1t Tests). She may be interested but feels the need to assure you and herself that she isn't a tramp.
 

Flabbergasped?

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Sorry, I meant her ears, I'll edit that.

I'm sure she'll flake, but I'm also sure that she's a horny biznatch. Her actions at my friend's house speak louder than words.

My dillema is, how do I avoid all the bs (hanging out with her around town) while still getting in her pants? Can it be done, given the type of person she is?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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socalrunner

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hang out wherever you have an open room with her, bring alcohol, a dvd, and music. thats all im going to tell you...you'll have to figure out the rest yourself but thats all you need to fvck any girl who is horny.
 

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Yeah bro, you should've isolated her. She sounded like she would've went for it.
 
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