"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Question for DJs who are homeowners
- Thread starter Desdinova
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
SecondHalf
Master Don Juan
And yes, you have to be careful, for their IL towards you is influenced by your home.
I won't even boink those ones as they go quite nutty if you don't like them and have to end it. I "user" is a calculating angry bird and they never take rejection very well.
SH
I'm a magnet for women before they see my house. :rockon:Desdinova said:
Seriously, though. I do own my own house in one of the better neighborhoods in my city. I've been seeing women that are older and settled so none of them are still with their parents.
However, once they do see my house they're interest in me is confirmed by knowing that I'm not some bum who can't take care of himself.
Cheers!
sodbuster
Master Don Juan
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
People tend to think that if there's no written lease, then you can just throw the girl out. The court will do that for you, but you have to pay your money and wait your time.
backbreaker
Master Don Juan
especially younger women, who have never lived in a real house by themselves. you get a 22-24 year old chick and you have a nice house, kyou can just see the wheels spinning in their heads.
My theory is that women do that type of stuff in mens houses to try to claim their territory so that other women can see it. I remember one girl "accidentally" left her $5k diamond earrings on my nightstand...
Desdinova
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Actually, I'm more or less referring to the 34 year old. She lived with her parents because she apparently has so much debt that she can't afford to live on her own. She also said she 'can't live alone'.zekko said:
Not sure about the 21 year old yet. We've only been on two dates.
penkitten
Master Don Juan
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Scaramouche
Master Don Juan
Your perceived value does increase when they know you have a nice home....to those without a home of their own,they would like to share with you...to those who do have their own place,they know you are unlikely to sponge off them.