"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Question : As a MM how can you create or repair your reputation?

Warrior74

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Here is a question I have. I know people who have reinvented themselves but mainly through either leaving, going ghost for a while or by gaining fame/notoriety. What other ways are there to change your reputation?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Warrior74 said:
Here is a question I have. I know people who have reinvented themselves but mainly through either leaving, going ghost for a while or by gaining fame/notoriety. What other ways are there to change your reputation?
I think if you are looking to repair any damage, the best would be to not walk away from the problem or go ghost, but to work with whoever you offended and at least show that you are making an honest effort to repair your reputation.

What specifically did you do wrong?
 

Warrior74

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expos said:
I think if you are looking to repair any damage, the best would be to not walk away from the problem or go ghost, but to work with whoever you offended and at least show that you are making an honest effort to repair your reputation.

What specifically did you do wrong?
This question isn't really specific about me. I'm actually thinking about a coworker who basically ruined his reputation at work. I notice that the perception vs reality in the workplace about him is completely off. He's my supervisor and he's leaving and they are thinking about giving me his position. I'm really just curious as to how someone with a sullied reputation can turn it around or if it's even possible to do so. As for me, I enjoy a pretty decent rep in the workplace, except sometimes my temper can get the better of me.
 

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yes, you do have a temper.

Mellow it out and you'll be right in tune.
 

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Dear Warrior,
Amongst the Men,not a big deal,fifty percent will find mirth in the most disgusting behaviour,with some you may even gain Social credit....Amongst the fairer sex,sorry but Jessy the Elephant has Altzheimers compared to them LOL...This is why I always suggest,to those taking up Dancing,chose the venue where you wish to cast your net,look at the styles of Dancing,you may need assistance,THEN go to the appropriate lessons...Remember that you will always be considered a beginner where you learn,stuff up at the venues where you aim to pick up Women,and you will never be forgotten!
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Dear Boilermaker,
"yes, you do have a temper."....Yes and thank the good Lord for making blokes like Warrior,a generation ago guys like him were being stuffed into the ****pits of Spitfires,or being hosed out of a Lancasters back gun turret!
 

Warrior74

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Boilermaker said:
yes, you do have a temper.

Mellow it out and you'll be right in tune.

Wanton ignorance pisses me off. Unfortunately it's usually from the sales people who are all female and think the rest of us exist to serve their whims. They are some of the dumbest people in the building but they bring in the bank so their shenanigans and attitudes are tolerated.

Dear Warrior,
Amongst the Men,not a big deal,fifty percent will find mirth in the most disgusting behaviour,with some you may even gain Social credit....Amongst the fairer sex,sorry but Jessy the Elephant has Altzheimers compared to them LOL...This is why I always suggest,to those taking up Dancing,chose the venue where you wish to cast your net,look at the styles of Dancing,you may need assistance,THEN go to the appropriate lessons...Remember that you will always be considered a beginner where you learn,stuff up at the venues where you aim to pick up Women,and you will never be forgotten!
Not a bad idea. Good stuff.
 

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Meh, I spent a long time with one social group trying to repair my reputation, but was eventually forced out anyway. In hindsight, it was obvious that the members of the group were determined to see me in a bad light regardless of what I did, so sometimes it is better to not hang around and fight it. I did find that having objective proof of status, such as organising big events or holding high positions in respected organisations sometimes offsets bad impressions others may have of you.
 

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In what manner was your supervisor's reputation sullied?

The method is dependent on the type of reputation you're trying to attain and leave behind.

SH
 

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It's quite simple. If people need a reason to use you or find you useful then your reputation will magically come back. It's all about cost, benefit and risk....
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Dear JHL,
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cynical but Oh so true!
 
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