Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I think if you are looking to repair any damage, the best would be to not walk away from the problem or go ghost, but to work with whoever you offended and at least show that you are making an honest effort to repair your reputation.Warrior74 said:Here is a question I have. I know people who have reinvented themselves but mainly through either leaving, going ghost for a while or by gaining fame/notoriety. What other ways are there to change your reputation?
This question isn't really specific about me. I'm actually thinking about a coworker who basically ruined his reputation at work. I notice that the perception vs reality in the workplace about him is completely off. He's my supervisor and he's leaving and they are thinking about giving me his position. I'm really just curious as to how someone with a sullied reputation can turn it around or if it's even possible to do so. As for me, I enjoy a pretty decent rep in the workplace, except sometimes my temper can get the better of me.expos said:I think if you are looking to repair any damage, the best would be to not walk away from the problem or go ghost, but to work with whoever you offended and at least show that you are making an honest effort to repair your reputation.
What specifically did you do wrong?
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Boilermaker said:yes, you do have a temper.
Mellow it out and you'll be right in tune.
Not a bad idea. Good stuff.Dear Warrior,
Amongst the Men,not a big deal,fifty percent will find mirth in the most disgusting behaviour,with some you may even gain Social credit....Amongst the fairer sex,sorry but Jessy the Elephant has Altzheimers compared to them LOL...This is why I always suggest,to those taking up Dancing,chose the venue where you wish to cast your net,look at the styles of Dancing,you may need assistance,THEN go to the appropriate lessons...Remember that you will always be considered a beginner where you learn,stuff up at the venues where you aim to pick up Women,and you will never be forgotten!
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.