"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Question : As a MM how can you create or repair your reputation?
- Thread starter Warrior74
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
expos
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I think if you are looking to repair any damage, the best would be to not walk away from the problem or go ghost, but to work with whoever you offended and at least show that you are making an honest effort to repair your reputation.Warrior74 said:
What specifically did you do wrong?
This question isn't really specific about me. I'm actually thinking about a coworker who basically ruined his reputation at work. I notice that the perception vs reality in the workplace about him is completely off. He's my supervisor and he's leaving and they are thinking about giving me his position. I'm really just curious as to how someone with a sullied reputation can turn it around or if it's even possible to do so. As for me, I enjoy a pretty decent rep in the workplace, except sometimes my temper can get the better of me.expos said:
Boilermaker
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Mellow it out and you'll be right in tune.
Scaramouche
Master Don Juan
Amongst the Men,not a big deal,fifty percent will find mirth in the most disgusting behaviour,with some you may even gain Social credit....Amongst the fairer sex,sorry but Jessy the Elephant has Altzheimers compared to them LOL...This is why I always suggest,to those taking up Dancing,chose the venue where you wish to cast your net,look at the styles of Dancing,you may need assistance,THEN go to the appropriate lessons...Remember that you will always be considered a beginner where you learn,stuff up at the venues where you aim to pick up Women,and you will never be forgotten!
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Scaramouche
Master Don Juan
"yes, you do have a temper."....Yes and thank the good Lord for making blokes like Warrior,a generation ago guys like him were being stuffed into the ****pits of Spitfires,or being hosed out of a Lancasters back gun turret!
Boilermaker said:
Wanton ignorance pisses me off. Unfortunately it's usually from the sales people who are all female and think the rest of us exist to serve their whims. They are some of the dumbest people in the building but they bring in the bank so their shenanigans and attitudes are tolerated.
Not a bad idea. Good stuff.
SecondHalf
Master Don Juan
The method is dependent on the type of reputation you're trying to attain and leave behind.
SH
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Scaramouche
Master Don Juan
^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
cynical but Oh so true!