Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
I think if you are looking to repair any damage, the best would be to not walk away from the problem or go ghost, but to work with whoever you offended and at least show that you are making an honest effort to repair your reputation.Warrior74 said:Here is a question I have. I know people who have reinvented themselves but mainly through either leaving, going ghost for a while or by gaining fame/notoriety. What other ways are there to change your reputation?
This question isn't really specific about me. I'm actually thinking about a coworker who basically ruined his reputation at work. I notice that the perception vs reality in the workplace about him is completely off. He's my supervisor and he's leaving and they are thinking about giving me his position. I'm really just curious as to how someone with a sullied reputation can turn it around or if it's even possible to do so. As for me, I enjoy a pretty decent rep in the workplace, except sometimes my temper can get the better of me.expos said:I think if you are looking to repair any damage, the best would be to not walk away from the problem or go ghost, but to work with whoever you offended and at least show that you are making an honest effort to repair your reputation.
What specifically did you do wrong?
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Boilermaker said:yes, you do have a temper.
Mellow it out and you'll be right in tune.
Not a bad idea. Good stuff.Dear Warrior,
Amongst the Men,not a big deal,fifty percent will find mirth in the most disgusting behaviour,with some you may even gain Social credit....Amongst the fairer sex,sorry but Jessy the Elephant has Altzheimers compared to them LOL...This is why I always suggest,to those taking up Dancing,chose the venue where you wish to cast your net,look at the styles of Dancing,you may need assistance,THEN go to the appropriate lessons...Remember that you will always be considered a beginner where you learn,stuff up at the venues where you aim to pick up Women,and you will never be forgotten!
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.