"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Question about DJ Bible?

incognito42

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Is it supposed to be read over the course of several weeks for any special reason, or can I just read it in a few days?

Also, other than reading topics on these boards how exactly should I get started towards becoming a DJ? I woudl guess reaidng the DJ Bible is the first step, and then should I DO A BOOTCAMP OR SOMETHING? Is there any other free materical on the web that I should read that might add something this site doesnt? BAsically I need some sort of syllabus.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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read it over the course of several weeks and then complete the bootcamp.

that's basically the best way to do it

comic_relief
 

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I joined sosuave when there was no bootcamp, so I had to learn everything without that motivation. Almost every tip in the Tips forum was in the DJ Bible, so I just read all of it over the course of a few days. I occasionally re-read parts of the DJ Bible when I feel the need to work on a certain aspect of my personality.
 

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Desdinova said:
I joined sosuave when there was no bootcamp, so I had to learn everything without that motivation. Almost every tip in the Tips forum was in the DJ Bible, so I just read all of it over the course of a few days. I occasionally re-read parts of the DJ Bible when I feel the need to work on a certain aspect of my personality.
Over the course of the last year, I rarely read the DJ Bible anymore because I feel that I have gained everything from it (I've been here for almost four years as well).

Desdinova, do you feel the same way that I do?

It is a perfect start for newbies though and I suggest the DJ Bible to everyone as well.

comic_relief
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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ok so I shoudl read the DJ Bible as it is outlined and then do a bootcamp?
 

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sounds like a plan

when it comes to the holy Word of Pook, though, I'd recommend taking time to meditate on his precepts
 

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any tips that any of you guys wish you knew going into this? Maybe a small guide on my way to understanding the bigger picture?
 

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yeah, I kinda wish I'd started on the path to Pookdom earlier and ignored a lot of the speed seduction crap. Although I made some improvements my first year after getting here, it wasn't until I got around to reading the Book of Pook and Anti-Dump's Machine that I really saw improvements in my life.

Book of Pook
http://www.jbspencer.com/djb/Downloads/The Book of Pook.pdf

AntiDump's Machine
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=39729
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=39769
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=39785
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=39887
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=39888
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=40188
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=40241
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=40347
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=40698
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=58363

As for the other stuff on this site, it can be good for getting you a little more experience with ladies and a little more comfort in some of the basics (kino, conversation, being playful, etc.). But most of the stuff in the DJ Bible won't help you to become a real man. You'll just improve yourself on the outside...like a freshly cleaned gravesite. To really succeed with the ladies, you have to become a real man. And part of being a real man means not giving a damn about ladies. Paradoxical, I realize.


And you might check out "The Natural Order of Things" while you're at it.
 

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yep read it twice, do the bootcamp and PM me... cuz I'll be testing you on the DMAT!:rolleyes:
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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