"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Question about DJ Bible?

incognito42

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Is it supposed to be read over the course of several weeks for any special reason, or can I just read it in a few days?

Also, other than reading topics on these boards how exactly should I get started towards becoming a DJ? I woudl guess reaidng the DJ Bible is the first step, and then should I DO A BOOTCAMP OR SOMETHING? Is there any other free materical on the web that I should read that might add something this site doesnt? BAsically I need some sort of syllabus.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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read it over the course of several weeks and then complete the bootcamp.

that's basically the best way to do it

comic_relief
 

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I joined sosuave when there was no bootcamp, so I had to learn everything without that motivation. Almost every tip in the Tips forum was in the DJ Bible, so I just read all of it over the course of a few days. I occasionally re-read parts of the DJ Bible when I feel the need to work on a certain aspect of my personality.
 

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Desdinova said:
I joined sosuave when there was no bootcamp, so I had to learn everything without that motivation. Almost every tip in the Tips forum was in the DJ Bible, so I just read all of it over the course of a few days. I occasionally re-read parts of the DJ Bible when I feel the need to work on a certain aspect of my personality.
Over the course of the last year, I rarely read the DJ Bible anymore because I feel that I have gained everything from it (I've been here for almost four years as well).

Desdinova, do you feel the same way that I do?

It is a perfect start for newbies though and I suggest the DJ Bible to everyone as well.

comic_relief
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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incognito42

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ok so I shoudl read the DJ Bible as it is outlined and then do a bootcamp?
 

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sounds like a plan

when it comes to the holy Word of Pook, though, I'd recommend taking time to meditate on his precepts
 

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any tips that any of you guys wish you knew going into this? Maybe a small guide on my way to understanding the bigger picture?
 

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yeah, I kinda wish I'd started on the path to Pookdom earlier and ignored a lot of the speed seduction crap. Although I made some improvements my first year after getting here, it wasn't until I got around to reading the Book of Pook and Anti-Dump's Machine that I really saw improvements in my life.

Book of Pook
http://www.jbspencer.com/djb/Downloads/The Book of Pook.pdf

AntiDump's Machine
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=39729
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=39769
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=39785
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=39887
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=39888
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=40188
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=40241
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=40347
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=40698
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=58363

As for the other stuff on this site, it can be good for getting you a little more experience with ladies and a little more comfort in some of the basics (kino, conversation, being playful, etc.). But most of the stuff in the DJ Bible won't help you to become a real man. You'll just improve yourself on the outside...like a freshly cleaned gravesite. To really succeed with the ladies, you have to become a real man. And part of being a real man means not giving a damn about ladies. Paradoxical, I realize.


And you might check out "The Natural Order of Things" while you're at it.
 

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yep read it twice, do the bootcamp and PM me... cuz I'll be testing you on the DMAT!:rolleyes:
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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