"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Question about DJ Bible?

incognito42

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Is it supposed to be read over the course of several weeks for any special reason, or can I just read it in a few days?

Also, other than reading topics on these boards how exactly should I get started towards becoming a DJ? I woudl guess reaidng the DJ Bible is the first step, and then should I DO A BOOTCAMP OR SOMETHING? Is there any other free materical on the web that I should read that might add something this site doesnt? BAsically I need some sort of syllabus.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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read it over the course of several weeks and then complete the bootcamp.

that's basically the best way to do it

comic_relief
 

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I joined sosuave when there was no bootcamp, so I had to learn everything without that motivation. Almost every tip in the Tips forum was in the DJ Bible, so I just read all of it over the course of a few days. I occasionally re-read parts of the DJ Bible when I feel the need to work on a certain aspect of my personality.
 

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Desdinova said:
I joined sosuave when there was no bootcamp, so I had to learn everything without that motivation. Almost every tip in the Tips forum was in the DJ Bible, so I just read all of it over the course of a few days. I occasionally re-read parts of the DJ Bible when I feel the need to work on a certain aspect of my personality.
Over the course of the last year, I rarely read the DJ Bible anymore because I feel that I have gained everything from it (I've been here for almost four years as well).

Desdinova, do you feel the same way that I do?

It is a perfect start for newbies though and I suggest the DJ Bible to everyone as well.

comic_relief
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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ok so I shoudl read the DJ Bible as it is outlined and then do a bootcamp?
 

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sounds like a plan

when it comes to the holy Word of Pook, though, I'd recommend taking time to meditate on his precepts
 

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any tips that any of you guys wish you knew going into this? Maybe a small guide on my way to understanding the bigger picture?
 

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yeah, I kinda wish I'd started on the path to Pookdom earlier and ignored a lot of the speed seduction crap. Although I made some improvements my first year after getting here, it wasn't until I got around to reading the Book of Pook and Anti-Dump's Machine that I really saw improvements in my life.

Book of Pook
http://www.jbspencer.com/djb/Downloads/The Book of Pook.pdf

AntiDump's Machine
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=39729
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=39769
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=39785
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=39887
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=39888
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=40188
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=40241
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=40347
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=40698
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=58363

As for the other stuff on this site, it can be good for getting you a little more experience with ladies and a little more comfort in some of the basics (kino, conversation, being playful, etc.). But most of the stuff in the DJ Bible won't help you to become a real man. You'll just improve yourself on the outside...like a freshly cleaned gravesite. To really succeed with the ladies, you have to become a real man. And part of being a real man means not giving a damn about ladies. Paradoxical, I realize.


And you might check out "The Natural Order of Things" while you're at it.
 

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yep read it twice, do the bootcamp and PM me... cuz I'll be testing you on the DMAT!:rolleyes:
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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