"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Question about DeadLifts.

GameTime76

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When performing deadlifts, are you wanting to mainly use your legs. Or both your arm and legs?

I'm just curious cause, I been getting back in to weight lifting and want to do it correctly when I do.

Also, if there is anything else I should know about deadlifts. Feel free to add.

Thanks.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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shaunuk

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You aren't really using your legs as the main muscle. When you're starting the lift, imagine driving your legs through the floor - all other things in place, you'll initiate the lift right (keep tight and keep your back arched etc). You'll end up using your back, core, hips, legs etc.

There'll be threads of correct deadlift form on ironaddicts.com and you'll find a few good form videos on youtube.
 

jocca

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You only use your arms to hold onto the bar not to actually lift the weight
 

mrRuckus

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shaunuk said:
You aren't really using your legs as the main muscle.
Um. I guess all that quads and hamstring work people do to increase their deadlift is for no reason, and i just imagine the soreness after deadlift day.
 

Jitterbug

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Quads and hammies do the hardest part of deadlift which is to pull the weight from the floor to about knee level (or half way to the top position). If you're not sore in those places the next day, you're not doing deadlift right.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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