"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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question about a weekend encounter i had with this girl

PistolGripPumpin

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ok, here goes...i was at my bro's apartment over the weekend and i met this
really cool girl who happens to be good friends with my bro's girlfriend. i
wasn't gonna try to get with her at first, but after some mutual flirting, i
said **** it, went over and sat next to her, we flirted a tad more, i
utilized "kino", and when i thought she was ready to be kissed, i laid one
on her. so we hooked up and pretty much spent the rest of the night together (no sex though). i also tried to avoid coming off as needy or clingy by getting up every now and then to do something else, like helping my bro
clean up beer cans for example. this girl was awesome. she possessed the
qualities i look for in a woman i would like to have a relationship with.
also, she seemed VERY into me. she cuddled close, told me i was turning her on, didnt want to leave me, things of that nature. but ANYWAY, here comes the mistake. the next morning, i dont get her number when she leaves. i was wondering if there was anything i could do. would it be creepy if i got her number from my bro's g/f? should i contact her through myspace? (we both have one) are my chances messed up b/c i went up her shirt and down her pants? (she really enjoyed that, though) but since i did those things, would our encounter probably be more of a one night thing instead of something that could blossom into a relationship? is it worth pursuing? i would love and appreciate it if anyone could help me out with some advice or input. i really want to see if there's anything there. i mean, the only way i'll know is if i try, right? thanks again.

- chuck
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I think its one night stand.

Any chance any of you guys could post a sticky with all the abbreviations? I would, but dont know a fair few of them myself!
 

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Learn to use capitol letters and paragraphs.
 

PistolGripPumpin

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i didnt do that with the paragraphs, thats just how it turned out. and i hope ur telling everyone else the same thing b/c im not the only one that doesnt capitolize. anyways, should i just be straight up in asking her? like, "hey, we should get together sometime. how can i reach you?" or "i had fun the other night, we should get together, is there a number i can reach you at?" or something along those lines? and u dont think i'll come off as a wuss by asking for her number over the computer?
 

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sorry if i'm being a pain with this topic. i've done some reading in other posts and have been looking through the DJ Bible, and i saw that you should wait 2-3 days to call (this i already knew), and it's probably not a good idea to call on a thursday, friday, or saturday b/c she'll probably already have plans (this i was not aware of), for the purpose of your phone call was to set up a date - no fluff.

Let's say i get this number, and the end of that 2-3 day time period lands on a friday or saturday. what do you guys feel would be the best thing to do? or should i just call her since it's been a couple days since i last saw her?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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people keep reading this thread but no one posts any advice. alright, does everyone not like me or something? answer that question in box #9 and ill never come back again. thanks.
 

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my advice is, just get in touch with her one way or another and she'll probably give you a good reception.
 
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