"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

Read more...

question about a weekend encounter i had with this girl

PistolGripPumpin

Don Juan
Joined
Feb 26, 2007
Messages
11
Reaction score
0
Location
Jersey
ok, here goes...i was at my bro's apartment over the weekend and i met this
really cool girl who happens to be good friends with my bro's girlfriend. i
wasn't gonna try to get with her at first, but after some mutual flirting, i
said **** it, went over and sat next to her, we flirted a tad more, i
utilized "kino", and when i thought she was ready to be kissed, i laid one
on her. so we hooked up and pretty much spent the rest of the night together (no sex though). i also tried to avoid coming off as needy or clingy by getting up every now and then to do something else, like helping my bro
clean up beer cans for example. this girl was awesome. she possessed the
qualities i look for in a woman i would like to have a relationship with.
also, she seemed VERY into me. she cuddled close, told me i was turning her on, didnt want to leave me, things of that nature. but ANYWAY, here comes the mistake. the next morning, i dont get her number when she leaves. i was wondering if there was anything i could do. would it be creepy if i got her number from my bro's g/f? should i contact her through myspace? (we both have one) are my chances messed up b/c i went up her shirt and down her pants? (she really enjoyed that, though) but since i did those things, would our encounter probably be more of a one night thing instead of something that could blossom into a relationship? is it worth pursuing? i would love and appreciate it if anyone could help me out with some advice or input. i really want to see if there's anything there. i mean, the only way i'll know is if i try, right? thanks again.

- chuck
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

Read more...

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

Read more...

CrunchyNut

Don Juan
Joined
Dec 3, 2006
Messages
168
Reaction score
2
Location
England
I think its one night stand.

Any chance any of you guys could post a sticky with all the abbreviations? I would, but dont know a fair few of them myself!
 

Skel

Master Don Juan
Joined
Nov 5, 2003
Messages
1,721
Reaction score
10
Learn to use capitol letters and paragraphs.
 

PistolGripPumpin

Don Juan
Joined
Feb 26, 2007
Messages
11
Reaction score
0
Location
Jersey
i didnt do that with the paragraphs, thats just how it turned out. and i hope ur telling everyone else the same thing b/c im not the only one that doesnt capitolize. anyways, should i just be straight up in asking her? like, "hey, we should get together sometime. how can i reach you?" or "i had fun the other night, we should get together, is there a number i can reach you at?" or something along those lines? and u dont think i'll come off as a wuss by asking for her number over the computer?
 

PistolGripPumpin

Don Juan
Joined
Feb 26, 2007
Messages
11
Reaction score
0
Location
Jersey
sorry if i'm being a pain with this topic. i've done some reading in other posts and have been looking through the DJ Bible, and i saw that you should wait 2-3 days to call (this i already knew), and it's probably not a good idea to call on a thursday, friday, or saturday b/c she'll probably already have plans (this i was not aware of), for the purpose of your phone call was to set up a date - no fluff.

Let's say i get this number, and the end of that 2-3 day time period lands on a friday or saturday. what do you guys feel would be the best thing to do? or should i just call her since it's been a couple days since i last saw her?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

Read more...

PistolGripPumpin

Don Juan
Joined
Feb 26, 2007
Messages
11
Reaction score
0
Location
Jersey
people keep reading this thread but no one posts any advice. alright, does everyone not like me or something? answer that question in box #9 and ill never come back again. thanks.
 

sidewind3r

Don Juan
Joined
Oct 23, 2005
Messages
34
Reaction score
0
Age
50
my advice is, just get in touch with her one way or another and she'll probably give you a good reception.
 
Top