You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
That may be, but there is ALOT of truth in what this guy talks about... but he says american women, I would say 'americanized' women. A friend of mine is dating an 'americanized' east indian woman, who told him that for their anniversary to buy her a Gucci watch (800$)....Originally posted by Slashco
Have you looked at this person's 'book'? Just another bitter, misogynistic loser who has decided to blame women for all his problems. I have no faith in anything this guy says.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Erm, but isnt the point of having a gf to be with only her and not to meet girls? Of course, with the intention of going out with themOriginally posted by dillin
This is true but alot of people are like "I don't care" but thats not what they are feeling inside, you have to REALLY not care much and you will be surprised at what comes along.
Have you ever noticed the guys who think they are so cool because they have a girlfriend are the ones totally whipped by there g/f's and hardly ever meet girls?
I know so many losers who act like the happiness of life is having some stupid "girlfriend" HA! What losers and they base there happiness on one person
Understand that when a situation like this occurs it is a "you reap what you sow" situation.Originally posted by PuertoRican_Lover
If you don't see this reality today, it is because you have become blinded by your own lusts. When you have a ho baby and are paying $900 a month in child support and the woman doesn't let you see the child and you have to live in a one bedroom apartment while she has a 4 bedroom house, then you'll be an advocate of nomarriage.com!! [/B]