"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Psycho gf contacts my ex

QuadDeuces

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My girlfriend is insane, a drama queen, cry baby, stalker.

She gained access to my phone and saw some messages my ex and me sent. Nothing sexual, nothing daily, just regular “how you been, I really liked my time with you. Hope youre doing good” texts.
She went ballistic I mean ballistic, threatened to kill herself. Hit me almost broke her thumb as she slammed the door.

Anyway my ex contacted me that she had contacted her on facebook and she has told her every fukking detail of my life, she wanted to know everything about me and my ex relationship (Which ended 9 months ago!!!) yesterday I found out that my ex and my gf are in daily communication with eachother checking dates, checking lies I told.(Because I was cheating in the final stages of relationship with ex)
The gf lives with me, my ex lives in fukking Spain, can you imagine how crazy she is.

I am really thinking about dumping her now, I feel nothing for her anymore only embarrasment and disgust no respect. But how do I get rid of her out of my house without her slitting her wrists, or slamming my macbook against the wall? She is highly volatile and emotional it even scares me a little bit when she goes in 5h long screaming meltdowns over little things like when I leave her alone for 1,5h to visit friends or family. Always thinks Im cheating or something.

Anyway whats the best way to dump her without revenge actions?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Glassguy

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Anyway whats the best way to dump her without revenge actions?
The situation depends on your living arrangements. If you moved in with her and the rent/home ownership is through her, you simply move out.

If its your place (legally) and she moved in with you, simply tell her to move out. If that doesnt work, call the cops. They will assist in her moving out.

Problem solved.
 

marmel75

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You are with her why? Do yourself a favor and stop wasting months of your life you'll never get back. This chick needs to go immediately. Like yesterday.
 
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