"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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prove my girlfriend wrong!!!!

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ive been with my girlfriend for about 7 months now and i dont really go out and have no hobbies. she says to me i won't change how can i prove her wrong??? please help

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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Go out and get some hobbies?
 
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The only way you can prove her wrong is to get some hobbies but eh if you don't want any hobbies and like who you are as a person you'll just have to get rid of her and find someone who likes you as you are.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Understandable.

Is she trying to use you not having any hobbies as a reason to break up with you or is it just one of those nagging chick complaints that is easy to dismiss?

If its just a nagging complaint ignore her.
 
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LOL, ok then.

Just tell her you'll change your ways but then never do anything to change and whenever she brings it up again just tell her that you'll change soon you just need time.

Basically brush her off by acting like you'll change when no such change is going to happen.

That or you can tell her that she should just love you for the way that you are since you love her for the way that she is.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Well if you want to keep her you'll simply have to do what she requests but keep in mind you'll be living your life under her terms by doing this if its not something you want to do.

You seem to want to keep her at all costs so you'll just have to do what she wants in this case.
 
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i do want to do it yes, but where i live there isn't much around and i have to go to the next town to do it. new year new start i guess
 
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An easy way to do this is focus on grades if you are still in school. Spend an hour or two (maybe more) on school work and studying. In a few months, you should have pretty good semester grades. That becomes tangible proof of hard work and effort. Also helps your confidence too.
 
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Friends???? How about you get friends and go do some crazy $hit with them. Like roadtrips, causing chaos in bars and 24 hour fast food places. Pick up an instrument, read a friggin book, start collecting something interesting.

OR how about this. IF YOUR FRIGGIN HAPPY THEN DON'T LET HER CONTROL YOU AND TELL YOU WHAT TO DO. ARE YOU A MAN OR WHAT???
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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If you don't want to do something and like the way you are, I guess you can throw her away and look for a girl who likes you the way you are.

Personally, I found there so many things a person can do with a day's time. Even assumming you like the way you are and you shouldn't change just for you girlfriend, being idle and never going out must be boring. You must have some kind of ambition, dream, or goal, go out and reach for it. You must have some kind of interests or interest in something but have not picked it up, go out and pick it up. Currently in college, I have a policy to have as little dull moment as possible, I would be studying, fencing, dancing, hanging with my friends, etc.
 
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yea thanks i need all the help i can get, dont get me wrong im not a boring person i do go out now and then but i just dnt have any hobbies or nothing. why is she trying to change me?
 
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im at college at the minute
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how are your grades? show some dedication and work hard to maintain A's and B's. if nothing else it will help you feel better about yourself. i'm sure she will be impressed.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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