Will900
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ive been with my girlfriend for about 7 months now and i dont really go out and have no hobbies. she says to me i won't change how can i prove her wrong??? please help
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
prove my girlfriend wrong!!!!
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
lolLeporello said:Go out and get some hobbies?
Will900
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u aint helpin
KontrollerX
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The only way you can prove her wrong is to get some hobbies but eh if you don't want any hobbies and like who you are as a person you'll just have to get rid of her and find someone who likes you as you are.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Will900
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i dont want to lose her tho
KontrollerX
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Understandable.
Is she trying to use you not having any hobbies as a reason to break up with you or is it just one of those nagging chick complaints that is easy to dismiss?
If its just a nagging complaint ignore her.
Is she trying to use you not having any hobbies as a reason to break up with you or is it just one of those nagging chick complaints that is easy to dismiss?
If its just a nagging complaint ignore her.
Will900
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no she wants to c a differnece in me
KontrollerX
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LOL, ok then.
Just tell her you'll change your ways but then never do anything to change and whenever she brings it up again just tell her that you'll change soon you just need time.
Basically brush her off by acting like you'll change when no such change is going to happen.
That or you can tell her that she should just love you for the way that you are since you love her for the way that she is.
Just tell her you'll change your ways but then never do anything to change and whenever she brings it up again just tell her that you'll change soon you just need time.
Basically brush her off by acting like you'll change when no such change is going to happen.
That or you can tell her that she should just love you for the way that you are since you love her for the way that she is.
Will900
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she says she loves me for who i am but she rly wants me to do something and get out
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
KontrollerX
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Well if you want to keep her you'll simply have to do what she requests but keep in mind you'll be living your life under her terms by doing this if its not something you want to do.
You seem to want to keep her at all costs so you'll just have to do what she wants in this case.
You seem to want to keep her at all costs so you'll just have to do what she wants in this case.
Will900
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i do want to do it yes, but where i live there isn't much around and i have to go to the next town to do it. new year new start i guess
tsmith2334
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An easy way to do this is focus on grades if you are still in school. Spend an hour or two (maybe more) on school work and studying. In a few months, you should have pretty good semester grades. That becomes tangible proof of hard work and effort. Also helps your confidence too.
Will900
Don Juan
im at college at the minute
I-tallionStallion
Master Don Juan
Friends???? How about you get friends and go do some crazy $hit with them. Like roadtrips, causing chaos in bars and 24 hour fast food places. Pick up an instrument, read a friggin book, start collecting something interesting.
OR how about this. IF YOUR FRIGGIN HAPPY THEN DON'T LET HER CONTROL YOU AND TELL YOU WHAT TO DO. ARE YOU A MAN OR WHAT???
OR how about this. IF YOUR FRIGGIN HAPPY THEN DON'T LET HER CONTROL YOU AND TELL YOU WHAT TO DO. ARE YOU A MAN OR WHAT???
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Will900
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yes i am a man lol its just i love her to bits and we have been talkin about marriage and that
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If you don't want to do something and like the way you are, I guess you can throw her away and look for a girl who likes you the way you are.
Personally, I found there so many things a person can do with a day's time. Even assumming you like the way you are and you shouldn't change just for you girlfriend, being idle and never going out must be boring. You must have some kind of ambition, dream, or goal, go out and reach for it. You must have some kind of interests or interest in something but have not picked it up, go out and pick it up. Currently in college, I have a policy to have as little dull moment as possible, I would be studying, fencing, dancing, hanging with my friends, etc.
Personally, I found there so many things a person can do with a day's time. Even assumming you like the way you are and you shouldn't change just for you girlfriend, being idle and never going out must be boring. You must have some kind of ambition, dream, or goal, go out and reach for it. You must have some kind of interests or interest in something but have not picked it up, go out and pick it up. Currently in college, I have a policy to have as little dull moment as possible, I would be studying, fencing, dancing, hanging with my friends, etc.
Will900
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yea thanks i need all the help i can get, dont get me wrong im not a boring person i do go out now and then but i just dnt have any hobbies or nothing. why is she trying to change me?
Because you're boring and she's female.Will900 said:Why is she trying to change me?
tsmith2334
Master Don Juan
how are your grades? show some dedication and work hard to maintain A's and B's. if nothing else it will help you feel better about yourself. i'm sure she will be impressed.Will900 said:im at college at the minute
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.