Will900
Don Juan
ive been with my girlfriend for about 7 months now and i dont really go out and have no hobbies. she says to me i won't change how can i prove her wrong??? please help
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"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
prove my girlfriend wrong!!!!
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
lolLeporello said:Go out and get some hobbies?
Will900
Don Juan
u aint helpin
KontrollerX
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The only way you can prove her wrong is to get some hobbies but eh if you don't want any hobbies and like who you are as a person you'll just have to get rid of her and find someone who likes you as you are.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Will900
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i dont want to lose her tho
KontrollerX
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Understandable.
Is she trying to use you not having any hobbies as a reason to break up with you or is it just one of those nagging chick complaints that is easy to dismiss?
If its just a nagging complaint ignore her.
Is she trying to use you not having any hobbies as a reason to break up with you or is it just one of those nagging chick complaints that is easy to dismiss?
If its just a nagging complaint ignore her.
Will900
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no she wants to c a differnece in me
KontrollerX
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LOL, ok then.
Just tell her you'll change your ways but then never do anything to change and whenever she brings it up again just tell her that you'll change soon you just need time.
Basically brush her off by acting like you'll change when no such change is going to happen.
That or you can tell her that she should just love you for the way that you are since you love her for the way that she is.
Just tell her you'll change your ways but then never do anything to change and whenever she brings it up again just tell her that you'll change soon you just need time.
Basically brush her off by acting like you'll change when no such change is going to happen.
That or you can tell her that she should just love you for the way that you are since you love her for the way that she is.
Will900
Don Juan
she says she loves me for who i am but she rly wants me to do something and get out
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
KontrollerX
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Well if you want to keep her you'll simply have to do what she requests but keep in mind you'll be living your life under her terms by doing this if its not something you want to do.
You seem to want to keep her at all costs so you'll just have to do what she wants in this case.
You seem to want to keep her at all costs so you'll just have to do what she wants in this case.
Will900
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i do want to do it yes, but where i live there isn't much around and i have to go to the next town to do it. new year new start i guess
tsmith2334
Master Don Juan
An easy way to do this is focus on grades if you are still in school. Spend an hour or two (maybe more) on school work and studying. In a few months, you should have pretty good semester grades. That becomes tangible proof of hard work and effort. Also helps your confidence too.
Will900
Don Juan
im at college at the minute
I-tallionStallion
Master Don Juan
Friends???? How about you get friends and go do some crazy $hit with them. Like roadtrips, causing chaos in bars and 24 hour fast food places. Pick up an instrument, read a friggin book, start collecting something interesting.
OR how about this. IF YOUR FRIGGIN HAPPY THEN DON'T LET HER CONTROL YOU AND TELL YOU WHAT TO DO. ARE YOU A MAN OR WHAT???
OR how about this. IF YOUR FRIGGIN HAPPY THEN DON'T LET HER CONTROL YOU AND TELL YOU WHAT TO DO. ARE YOU A MAN OR WHAT???
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Will900
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yes i am a man lol its just i love her to bits and we have been talkin about marriage and that
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If you don't want to do something and like the way you are, I guess you can throw her away and look for a girl who likes you the way you are.
Personally, I found there so many things a person can do with a day's time. Even assumming you like the way you are and you shouldn't change just for you girlfriend, being idle and never going out must be boring. You must have some kind of ambition, dream, or goal, go out and reach for it. You must have some kind of interests or interest in something but have not picked it up, go out and pick it up. Currently in college, I have a policy to have as little dull moment as possible, I would be studying, fencing, dancing, hanging with my friends, etc.
Personally, I found there so many things a person can do with a day's time. Even assumming you like the way you are and you shouldn't change just for you girlfriend, being idle and never going out must be boring. You must have some kind of ambition, dream, or goal, go out and reach for it. You must have some kind of interests or interest in something but have not picked it up, go out and pick it up. Currently in college, I have a policy to have as little dull moment as possible, I would be studying, fencing, dancing, hanging with my friends, etc.
Will900
Don Juan
yea thanks i need all the help i can get, dont get me wrong im not a boring person i do go out now and then but i just dnt have any hobbies or nothing. why is she trying to change me?
Because you're boring and she's female.Will900 said:Why is she trying to change me?
tsmith2334
Master Don Juan
how are your grades? show some dedication and work hard to maintain A's and B's. if nothing else it will help you feel better about yourself. i'm sure she will be impressed.Will900 said:im at college at the minute
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.