"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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prove my girlfriend wrong!!!!

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ive been with my girlfriend for about 7 months now and i dont really go out and have no hobbies. she says to me i won't change how can i prove her wrong??? please help

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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Go out and get some hobbies?
 
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The only way you can prove her wrong is to get some hobbies but eh if you don't want any hobbies and like who you are as a person you'll just have to get rid of her and find someone who likes you as you are.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Understandable.

Is she trying to use you not having any hobbies as a reason to break up with you or is it just one of those nagging chick complaints that is easy to dismiss?

If its just a nagging complaint ignore her.
 
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LOL, ok then.

Just tell her you'll change your ways but then never do anything to change and whenever she brings it up again just tell her that you'll change soon you just need time.

Basically brush her off by acting like you'll change when no such change is going to happen.

That or you can tell her that she should just love you for the way that you are since you love her for the way that she is.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Well if you want to keep her you'll simply have to do what she requests but keep in mind you'll be living your life under her terms by doing this if its not something you want to do.

You seem to want to keep her at all costs so you'll just have to do what she wants in this case.
 
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i do want to do it yes, but where i live there isn't much around and i have to go to the next town to do it. new year new start i guess
 
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An easy way to do this is focus on grades if you are still in school. Spend an hour or two (maybe more) on school work and studying. In a few months, you should have pretty good semester grades. That becomes tangible proof of hard work and effort. Also helps your confidence too.
 
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Friends???? How about you get friends and go do some crazy $hit with them. Like roadtrips, causing chaos in bars and 24 hour fast food places. Pick up an instrument, read a friggin book, start collecting something interesting.

OR how about this. IF YOUR FRIGGIN HAPPY THEN DON'T LET HER CONTROL YOU AND TELL YOU WHAT TO DO. ARE YOU A MAN OR WHAT???
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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If you don't want to do something and like the way you are, I guess you can throw her away and look for a girl who likes you the way you are.

Personally, I found there so many things a person can do with a day's time. Even assumming you like the way you are and you shouldn't change just for you girlfriend, being idle and never going out must be boring. You must have some kind of ambition, dream, or goal, go out and reach for it. You must have some kind of interests or interest in something but have not picked it up, go out and pick it up. Currently in college, I have a policy to have as little dull moment as possible, I would be studying, fencing, dancing, hanging with my friends, etc.
 
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yea thanks i need all the help i can get, dont get me wrong im not a boring person i do go out now and then but i just dnt have any hobbies or nothing. why is she trying to change me?
 
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Will900 said:
im at college at the minute
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how are your grades? show some dedication and work hard to maintain A's and B's. if nothing else it will help you feel better about yourself. i'm sure she will be impressed.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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