Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Whats your diet look like? How many meals and how much protein are you getting from real food per day?HandyAndy said:Im talking protein twice a day now, right after I workout and what other time would be most effective?
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Well i spend most of my day at school, I eat once at nutrition and once at lunch, i get a pretty good amount of protein at those times, i workout afterschool and then take my protein shake.JohnnyIrish said:Whats your diet look like? How many meals and how much protein are you getting from real food per day?
Mon - Upper Horizontal: BB Bench, BB Row, DB Inc Bench, Cable Row, Arm WorkHandyAndy said:I got the protein thing down, instead of making a new topic for a simple question, ill just ask it in here.
What is the best set/rep combination? Im confused on what to do.
Im having some trouble with the workout posted in the "Where to start" post, so what do you think of this one? And tell me what changes are best. Thx..
Monday - Chest/Triceps
Tuesday - Legs
Wednesday - off
Thursday - Shoulders
Friday - Back/Biceps
Saturday - off
Sunday - off
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
What's the matter?HandyAndy said:Im having some trouble with the workout posted in the "Where to start" post
I'm a teen too and yeah it's definitely tough to eat 6+ meals a day. Preparing is the only way to go... Once you get a strategy and formula down that works, it makes the job a whole lot easier and the only real challenge after that is discipline and motivation, which you have to find yourself.HandyAndy said:Im a teen, i find it hard to eat 5-6 meals a day, and its harder to actually prepare them, as for the omega 3s, my dad takes fish oil, would it be safe to just pop one of his gel pills? If not, what should I do about it?
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Look up some lifting videos on Youtube and try to replicate. Start with just the bar for deadlifts and squats, and get a trainer in the gym to check your form. It's better than nothing. Ask a guy who puts up big weights to give you some pointers on form, thats what I did.HandyAndy said:Well ive never done the deadlift before, i dont know how much i can do, i have horrible squat form, i have upperbody strength and a little lowerbody strength, i can legpress around 340 but my squat is only around 125 which is pathetic.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.