Colin O'Brien
Don Juan
what is the generally accepted (among you folk) way of posing this question?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
proper way to see if a girl wants to be FWB
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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Don Juan
who you calling "you folk"?
The times that I've had a FWB, it's gone like this:
1. We meet through a common social circle
2. We hookup, usually at/after a party or a night out
3. Afterwards, we have the inevitable "talk" about what it meant
4. We both agree that it was fun, but we're not looking for much more
5. Rinse and repeat
It's tough to put into words that kind of proposal before the deed is done at least once, in my opinion.
1. We meet through a common social circle
2. We hookup, usually at/after a party or a night out
3. Afterwards, we have the inevitable "talk" about what it meant
4. We both agree that it was fun, but we're not looking for much more
5. Rinse and repeat
It's tough to put into words that kind of proposal before the deed is done at least once, in my opinion.
I mack a girl...and sleep with her...the next time she comes over, I tell her that I really like her, but not looking for anything serious. Usually they 99.9% of the time will agree and say, "I am not looking for anything serious either". From there on it, it is pretty easy.
Girls tend to prefer sex without all the BS of a relationship.
All I have ever had were lovers or fvck buddies...which sucks...now that I want a GF, I can't get either..HA!!!
Girls tend to prefer sex without all the BS of a relationship.
All I have ever had were lovers or fvck buddies...which sucks...now that I want a GF, I can't get either..HA!!!
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Yes and they love to pretend that that is not the case.... They hate admitting they are a ho, i which keep telling them, is not a bad word.Tantric said:Girls tend to prefer sex without all the BS of a relationship.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.