"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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The trick is to develop the knowledge base to the point where you get a good enough feel so you can loosen the template enough to make it feel organic.
Totally agree sounds like OP is looking for girls who are dtf, so some things I would vet for

-Is she flirty or receptive to flirting i.e. innuendo etc
-Is she sending you pics, preferably unsolicited i.e. I was talking to a girl I met on the apps she sent me a high-quality picture of her naked at her dask with glasses giving the whole sexy secretary look
-Is she bringing up dirty convo's first etc

If you experince enough you can sometimes gauge these things of the flow of conversations how a girl says things or what she is saying. The key is not being pushy, though. When I was younger I use to talk my way into ***** just to talk my way out of it. If a girl is really DTF they make it easy for you but you gotta be good at flirting via text and picking up nunance, I don't waste my time with facetime.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Totally agree sounds like OP is looking for girls who are dtf, so some things I would vet for

-Is she flirty or receptive to flirting i.e. innuendo etc
-Is she sending you pics, preferably unsolicited i.e. I was talking to a girl I met on the apps she sent me a high-quality picture of her naked at her dask with glasses giving the whole sexy secretary look
-Is she bringing up dirty convo's first etc

If you experince enough you can sometimes gauge these things of the flow of conversations how a girl says things or what she is saying. The key is not being pushy, though. When I was younger I use to talk my way into ***** just to talk my way out of it. If a girl is really DTF they make it easy for you but you gotta be good at flirting via text and picking up nunance, I don't waste my time with facetime.
we want to see the pic of the chick at her desk :p

I’m back on apps and literally just texted a bunch of chicks I’m chatting to with “Sooo ..horror movie and chill ..orrrr ?”
Out of boredom and self amusement to see what they will say.. It’s an interesting gear shift :)

I do experiments sometimes and open with things like
“ So.. what do you want to do to me ? :p“
The range of responses back can be very interesting :rofl:
 

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we want to see the pic of the chick at her desk :p

I’m back on apps and literally just texted a bunch of chicks I’m chatting to with “Sooo ..horror movie and chill ..orrrr ?”
Out of boredom and self amusement to see what they will say.. It’s an interesting gear shift :)

I do experiments sometimes and open with things like
“ So.. what do you want to do to me ? :p“
The range of responses back can be very interesting :rofl:
That's a good point about experimenting; you gotta try different stuff. You'd be surprised how boldness works on a woman espeically one that is attracted to you, it cuts the b.s. and sometimes you can get straight to the fun part

I use to be a collector of nudes of girls I smashed and didn't than i found it weird, so now if a situation ends with a girl I delete their pics...why remember someone who is most likely with someone else not thinking of you? I don't need trophies, i get it for some guys it is but im always trying to look forward and not back
 

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That's a good point about experimenting; you gotta try different stuff. You'd be surprised how boldness works on a woman espeically one that is attracted to you, it cuts the b.s. and sometimes you can get straight to the fun part

I use to be a collector of nudes of girls I smashed and didn't than i found it weird, so now if a situation ends with a girl I delete their pics...why remember someone who is most likely with someone else not thinking of you? I don't need trophies, i get it for some guys it is but im always trying to look forward and not back
100%
Being bold can work wonders.

oh man.. I have just watched some BP” Chadfish” experiment videos on YT…it’s brutal stuff.
How bold the “Chad” can be. And how compliant the women are. There is no mucking around at all.
Example opener;
Him- “your place or mine?”
Her -“ wow so forward lol”

Then it’s just her giving the barest of token resistance (if any) and its done deal, and just logistics.
 
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Being bold can work wonders.

oh man.. I have just watched some BP” Chadfish” experiment videos on YT…it’s brutal stuff.
How bold the “Chad” can be. And how compliant the women are. There is no mucking around at all.
Example opener;
Him- “your place or mine?”
Her -“ wow so forward lol”

Then it’s just her giving the barest of token resistance (if any) and its done deal, and just logistics.
Those 'chadfish' experiments are fun and interesting, but note: getting a woman interested in you on the app and flirting is part one (fairly easy if you have good pics + average to above average height listed) -- then actually what happens when (and if) you get her out is another hurdle. Even if she comes straight to yours it's not always a done deal.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Those 'chadfish' experiments are fun and interesting, but note: getting a woman interested in you on the app and flirting is part one (fairly easy if you have good pics + average to above average height listed) -- then actually what happens when (and if) you get her out is another hurdle. Even if she comes straight to yours it's not always a done deal.
Hmmm. That’s interesting.
I have had that happen but it’s a rare exception (that I didn’t end up having sex with the girl)
 
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