"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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The trick is to develop the knowledge base to the point where you get a good enough feel so you can loosen the template enough to make it feel organic.
Totally agree sounds like OP is looking for girls who are dtf, so some things I would vet for

-Is she flirty or receptive to flirting i.e. innuendo etc
-Is she sending you pics, preferably unsolicited i.e. I was talking to a girl I met on the apps she sent me a high-quality picture of her naked at her dask with glasses giving the whole sexy secretary look
-Is she bringing up dirty convo's first etc

If you experince enough you can sometimes gauge these things of the flow of conversations how a girl says things or what she is saying. The key is not being pushy, though. When I was younger I use to talk my way into ***** just to talk my way out of it. If a girl is really DTF they make it easy for you but you gotta be good at flirting via text and picking up nunance, I don't waste my time with facetime.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Totally agree sounds like OP is looking for girls who are dtf, so some things I would vet for

-Is she flirty or receptive to flirting i.e. innuendo etc
-Is she sending you pics, preferably unsolicited i.e. I was talking to a girl I met on the apps she sent me a high-quality picture of her naked at her dask with glasses giving the whole sexy secretary look
-Is she bringing up dirty convo's first etc

If you experince enough you can sometimes gauge these things of the flow of conversations how a girl says things or what she is saying. The key is not being pushy, though. When I was younger I use to talk my way into ***** just to talk my way out of it. If a girl is really DTF they make it easy for you but you gotta be good at flirting via text and picking up nunance, I don't waste my time with facetime.
we want to see the pic of the chick at her desk :p

I’m back on apps and literally just texted a bunch of chicks I’m chatting to with “Sooo ..horror movie and chill ..orrrr ?”
Out of boredom and self amusement to see what they will say.. It’s an interesting gear shift :)

I do experiments sometimes and open with things like
“ So.. what do you want to do to me ? :p“
The range of responses back can be very interesting :rofl:
 

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we want to see the pic of the chick at her desk :p

I’m back on apps and literally just texted a bunch of chicks I’m chatting to with “Sooo ..horror movie and chill ..orrrr ?”
Out of boredom and self amusement to see what they will say.. It’s an interesting gear shift :)

I do experiments sometimes and open with things like
“ So.. what do you want to do to me ? :p“
The range of responses back can be very interesting :rofl:
That's a good point about experimenting; you gotta try different stuff. You'd be surprised how boldness works on a woman espeically one that is attracted to you, it cuts the b.s. and sometimes you can get straight to the fun part

I use to be a collector of nudes of girls I smashed and didn't than i found it weird, so now if a situation ends with a girl I delete their pics...why remember someone who is most likely with someone else not thinking of you? I don't need trophies, i get it for some guys it is but im always trying to look forward and not back
 

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That's a good point about experimenting; you gotta try different stuff. You'd be surprised how boldness works on a woman espeically one that is attracted to you, it cuts the b.s. and sometimes you can get straight to the fun part

I use to be a collector of nudes of girls I smashed and didn't than i found it weird, so now if a situation ends with a girl I delete their pics...why remember someone who is most likely with someone else not thinking of you? I don't need trophies, i get it for some guys it is but im always trying to look forward and not back
100%
Being bold can work wonders.

oh man.. I have just watched some BP” Chadfish” experiment videos on YT…it’s brutal stuff.
How bold the “Chad” can be. And how compliant the women are. There is no mucking around at all.
Example opener;
Him- “your place or mine?”
Her -“ wow so forward lol”

Then it’s just her giving the barest of token resistance (if any) and its done deal, and just logistics.
 
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Being bold can work wonders.

oh man.. I have just watched some BP” Chadfish” experiment videos on YT…it’s brutal stuff.
How bold the “Chad” can be. And how compliant the women are. There is no mucking around at all.
Example opener;
Him- “your place or mine?”
Her -“ wow so forward lol”

Then it’s just her giving the barest of token resistance (if any) and its done deal, and just logistics.
Those 'chadfish' experiments are fun and interesting, but note: getting a woman interested in you on the app and flirting is part one (fairly easy if you have good pics + average to above average height listed) -- then actually what happens when (and if) you get her out is another hurdle. Even if she comes straight to yours it's not always a done deal.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Those 'chadfish' experiments are fun and interesting, but note: getting a woman interested in you on the app and flirting is part one (fairly easy if you have good pics + average to above average height listed) -- then actually what happens when (and if) you get her out is another hurdle. Even if she comes straight to yours it's not always a done deal.
Hmmm. That’s interesting.
I have had that happen but it’s a rare exception (that I didn’t end up having sex with the girl)
 
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