You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
ThanksRollo Tomassi said:Uh-uh,..not taking the bait.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
That's not a bad point, actually. I agree a lot of these girls do seem pretty happy. I was thinking in terms of their promiscuity having its origins in mental issues, not that they acted all wacky necessarily. Their wackiness *is* their promiscuity. They need the constant sexual approval of different men to feel good about themselves.the biitches who get diick the most and get all the attention from the men and me included, cause I slept with a couple of them, those are the ones who for the most part act sane at work, because they happy.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I'll judge!C-quenced said:THis thread is ripe pickin's for the relativists who just cannot help themselves....I predict it will be hijacked by all those who want to nitpick in $2 words about what "loose" means and how it is a value judgement, and what constitutes "unstable"..and why 'good' girls do hang out in bars and why the "quality woman" is a moralist's delusion and ...yawn...
Ahh, never mind.
I didn't intend on judging anyone. I'm not the kind to do so. I just couldn't think of a better term. All I was asking is if anyone has also noticed that these women have got some mental issues that seriously need to be worked out. Or is it just me seeing things?
all females are mentally unstable due to estrogen.. some just do a better job of managing and hiding their madness than othes..C-quenced said:I don't know if it's just me or if anyone else has noticed it as well but are women who tend to be on the "loose" side mentally unstable?
yeh desperation causes men to act crazy.. but women act crazy even though they are having sex offered to them all the time.. so whats your point.C-quenced said:have u ever noticed men who don't get any action tend to be mentally unstable?
Thats actually very true. Possibly even the male equivalent. I'm living proof so maybe I shouldn't be too quick to say these chicks are psycho.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.