You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
ThanksRollo Tomassi said:Uh-uh,..not taking the bait.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
That's not a bad point, actually. I agree a lot of these girls do seem pretty happy. I was thinking in terms of their promiscuity having its origins in mental issues, not that they acted all wacky necessarily. Their wackiness *is* their promiscuity. They need the constant sexual approval of different men to feel good about themselves.the biitches who get diick the most and get all the attention from the men and me included, cause I slept with a couple of them, those are the ones who for the most part act sane at work, because they happy.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I'll judge!C-quenced said:THis thread is ripe pickin's for the relativists who just cannot help themselves....I predict it will be hijacked by all those who want to nitpick in $2 words about what "loose" means and how it is a value judgement, and what constitutes "unstable"..and why 'good' girls do hang out in bars and why the "quality woman" is a moralist's delusion and ...yawn...
Ahh, never mind.
I didn't intend on judging anyone. I'm not the kind to do so. I just couldn't think of a better term. All I was asking is if anyone has also noticed that these women have got some mental issues that seriously need to be worked out. Or is it just me seeing things?
all females are mentally unstable due to estrogen.. some just do a better job of managing and hiding their madness than othes..C-quenced said:I don't know if it's just me or if anyone else has noticed it as well but are women who tend to be on the "loose" side mentally unstable?
yeh desperation causes men to act crazy.. but women act crazy even though they are having sex offered to them all the time.. so whats your point.C-quenced said:have u ever noticed men who don't get any action tend to be mentally unstable?
Thats actually very true. Possibly even the male equivalent. I'm living proof so maybe I shouldn't be too quick to say these chicks are psycho.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.