I am taking this female friend of my mine to the prom, and I'm not sure how far we can go. I'm not sure if nothing is going to happen, or if we are going to hook up, or possibly sex. Is there any wayI can find out, and if so, to prepare for it?
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
ATTENTION: DATE RAPE IS A BAD THING.Originally posted by icallug
depends on her
your game
.....alcohol
you cant expect anything out of her. just go with the flow
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
If alcohol = date rape, then the majority of girls at my college get raped several times a week. There is a difference between a girl being barely conscious (which is bad) and a little tipsy (which at a party is to be expected).Originally posted by punkrockpylot
ATTENTION: DATE RAPE IS A BAD THING.
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yeah, but if you lean on alcohol as a crutch, because you dont have much of a chance otherwise, its a bad thing...Originally posted by blienk
If alcohol = date rape, then the majority of girls at my college get raped several times a week. There is a difference between a girl being barely conscious (which is bad) and a little tipsy (which at a party is to be expected).
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.