I am taking this female friend of my mine to the prom, and I'm not sure how far we can go. I'm not sure if nothing is going to happen, or if we are going to hook up, or possibly sex. Is there any wayI can find out, and if so, to prepare for it?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Prom Q #1
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- Start date
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
That question will be answered when you hit the post-prom parties...just show her a good time, but don't hang around with her too much or she may become uninterested depending on how good your game is. Good luck.
punkrockpylot
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ATTENTION: DATE RAPE IS A BAD THING.Originally posted by icallug
depends on her
your game
.....alcohol
you cant expect anything out of her. just go with the flow
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SparkleMotion
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I think I remember reading somewhere that 80% of the girls that go to prom want to have sex that night, or feel obligated to. So I say you have an 80% chance.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
If alcohol = date rape, then the majority of girls at my college get raped several times a week. There is a difference between a girl being barely conscious (which is bad) and a little tipsy (which at a party is to be expected).Originally posted by punkrockpylot
ATTENTION: DATE RAPE IS A BAD THING.
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punkrockpylot
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yeah, but if you lean on alcohol as a crutch, because you dont have much of a chance otherwise, its a bad thing...Originally posted by blienk
If alcohol = date rape, then the majority of girls at my college get raped several times a week. There is a difference between a girl being barely conscious (which is bad) and a little tipsy (which at a party is to be expected).
LuvMyArmyMan
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well, i wouldnt have sex with my guy friend on prom night, so i say your chances arent high at all. even with alcohol. Girls just dont sleep with their guy friends. no girl i have ever known has done that. so dont expect it. and if she wants to, you also have your friendship to think of, but if she wants to, go ahead. just be safe.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.