oldmanofthesea
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You were living with her and all your sh*t is over there.... why don't you have keys?
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Problematic breakup
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
The reason " She said that maybe that will help us to get back together. ". Those kinda of reverse logic statements. This particular statement indicates a breakup. But leaves you with hope that there may be something in the future. The reasoning is she wants you to hang around while she checks out another situation or other situations.
I do realise that. To be honest in last couple of days i feel ok with the whole situtation. I mean, month ago i did not know how this works i was "lamer" ( not sure if i translated it properly i read book in polish). I dont want her back and i am not too sure if that is what she predicted will happen because i can litreally see how crazy she is going ;p
Thats fvcking wierd
Thats fvcking wierd
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
They mess themselves up doing the crazy things they tried to make logical.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
You no longer live there. Therefore the bills are hers. If any of the utilities are in your name either have them put into her name, or cancel them all together if she wont cooperate. Cancel them. It will then be her responsibility to sign up for her own utilities.
She broke up with you because she has feels for this guy in jail. Obviously they have either been in contact the whole time and she was just using you for entertainment and to pay the bills or he recently reached out and got her all curious and tingly. Sounds to me like he is getting out soon and this got her excited.
Dude she broke up with you. Stop going out with her no more kissing and hugging and giving her the girlfriend treatment. She lost that privilege. She should no longer be a priority in your life. All you are doing is validating her and giving yourself false hope and pain. She wont care that you are hurt. It is time for you to put your feelings ahead of hers.
From the moment you started ignoring all her messages is the moment you began to handle things properly. Get the bills settled and out of your name and the next.
Block her on all points of contact.
She blew her chance. Go out and meet and date new women.
This.
You have a LOT to look forward to at 28. While she's close to hitting the wall, you are just getting started.
Desdinova
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Agreed 100%. Take this as the price you paid for learning something. Forget about your 5hit and buy new stuff with the money you would have spent on feeding her wh0rish ass.
No. He got into a jail couple of months ago
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
What do you mean by hitting a wall?
Hitting the wall is when women start to lose their attractiveness they gain weight etc and basically start go go down hill.
U gotta let her go and be as unemotional as possible around her.
1. if U want her back, this is the way to do it.
2. If u are forced to move on, you’ll heal faster cuz u maintained your self respect, and therefore your dignity.
Trust me if U go all the way out like a little b!tch, Not only does this guarantee she won’t come back. Not only does it guarantee that she’ll grow to DESPISE you (women punish weakness with zero mercy). But it will also guarantee that it’ll be Almost IMPOSSIBLE And INCREDIBLY PAINFUL to recover from. AsK mE hOw I KnOw.
1. if U want her back, this is the way to do it.
2. If u are forced to move on, you’ll heal faster cuz u maintained your self respect, and therefore your dignity.
Trust me if U go all the way out like a little b!tch, Not only does this guarantee she won’t come back. Not only does it guarantee that she’ll grow to DESPISE you (women punish weakness with zero mercy). But it will also guarantee that it’ll be Almost IMPOSSIBLE And INCREDIBLY PAINFUL to recover from. AsK mE hOw I KnOw.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
She is trying to use you as plan b or seeking validation.
Do not engage. Do not reply. She already blew her chance.
Baibars
Master Don Juan
It's a bad idea man i've been there. Look, you have to heal and disconnect from her emotionally this is why you don't talk to her. You also don't want to be the beta orbiter while she gets banged by some other dudes because she does fck other guys. She even told you that she goes on dates.
You don't invest that much emotionally in ANY girl. This idealistic love youre capable of is not meant for a woman. She never loved you this way. This takes time until youre fully healed.
She will just string you along and along and along, all while you will be thinking 'next time i fack her' all while she is using you for the ego boost and validation.
Just delete, block and walk away.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
NFL level ego boost with multi million dollar salary. And it costs you self respect, forward drive and your sexual swag. They do it for a reason.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.