oldmanofthesea
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You were living with her and all your sh*t is over there.... why don't you have keys?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Problematic breakup
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
The reason " She said that maybe that will help us to get back together. ". Those kinda of reverse logic statements. This particular statement indicates a breakup. But leaves you with hope that there may be something in the future. The reasoning is she wants you to hang around while she checks out another situation or other situations.
I do realise that. To be honest in last couple of days i feel ok with the whole situtation. I mean, month ago i did not know how this works i was "lamer" ( not sure if i translated it properly i read book in polish). I dont want her back and i am not too sure if that is what she predicted will happen because i can litreally see how crazy she is going ;p
Thats fvcking wierd
Thats fvcking wierd
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
They mess themselves up doing the crazy things they tried to make logical.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You no longer live there. Therefore the bills are hers. If any of the utilities are in your name either have them put into her name, or cancel them all together if she wont cooperate. Cancel them. It will then be her responsibility to sign up for her own utilities.
She broke up with you because she has feels for this guy in jail. Obviously they have either been in contact the whole time and she was just using you for entertainment and to pay the bills or he recently reached out and got her all curious and tingly. Sounds to me like he is getting out soon and this got her excited.
Dude she broke up with you. Stop going out with her no more kissing and hugging and giving her the girlfriend treatment. She lost that privilege. She should no longer be a priority in your life. All you are doing is validating her and giving yourself false hope and pain. She wont care that you are hurt. It is time for you to put your feelings ahead of hers.
From the moment you started ignoring all her messages is the moment you began to handle things properly. Get the bills settled and out of your name and the next.
Block her on all points of contact.
She blew her chance. Go out and meet and date new women.
This.
You have a LOT to look forward to at 28. While she's close to hitting the wall, you are just getting started.
Desdinova
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Agreed 100%. Take this as the price you paid for learning something. Forget about your 5hit and buy new stuff with the money you would have spent on feeding her wh0rish ass.
No. He got into a jail couple of months ago
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
What do you mean by hitting a wall?
Hitting the wall is when women start to lose their attractiveness they gain weight etc and basically start go go down hill.
U gotta let her go and be as unemotional as possible around her.
1. if U want her back, this is the way to do it.
2. If u are forced to move on, you’ll heal faster cuz u maintained your self respect, and therefore your dignity.
Trust me if U go all the way out like a little b!tch, Not only does this guarantee she won’t come back. Not only does it guarantee that she’ll grow to DESPISE you (women punish weakness with zero mercy). But it will also guarantee that it’ll be Almost IMPOSSIBLE And INCREDIBLY PAINFUL to recover from. AsK mE hOw I KnOw.
1. if U want her back, this is the way to do it.
2. If u are forced to move on, you’ll heal faster cuz u maintained your self respect, and therefore your dignity.
Trust me if U go all the way out like a little b!tch, Not only does this guarantee she won’t come back. Not only does it guarantee that she’ll grow to DESPISE you (women punish weakness with zero mercy). But it will also guarantee that it’ll be Almost IMPOSSIBLE And INCREDIBLY PAINFUL to recover from. AsK mE hOw I KnOw.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
She is trying to use you as plan b or seeking validation.
Do not engage. Do not reply. She already blew her chance.
Baibars
Master Don Juan
It's a bad idea man i've been there. Look, you have to heal and disconnect from her emotionally this is why you don't talk to her. You also don't want to be the beta orbiter while she gets banged by some other dudes because she does fck other guys. She even told you that she goes on dates.
You don't invest that much emotionally in ANY girl. This idealistic love youre capable of is not meant for a woman. She never loved you this way. This takes time until youre fully healed.
She will just string you along and along and along, all while you will be thinking 'next time i fack her' all while she is using you for the ego boost and validation.
Just delete, block and walk away.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
NFL level ego boost with multi million dollar salary. And it costs you self respect, forward drive and your sexual swag. They do it for a reason.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.