"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Problematic breakup
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
NFL = American professional football. My statement means your actions and interests inflate her ego to super star level.
Blacksheep
Master Don Juan
It seems like she is trying to play with your emotions to put you down. And this is probably draining your energy.
The best should be solve all those stuffs/bills you both have together as soon as possible and then finish that relationship and go no contact. Just move forward.
But saying that is pretty easy when we don't have the feeling. Maybe first of all you must resolve all those feelings you have for her inside of you and then decide what to do. It take some time, and maybe talking to a good therapist can help you with that.
I know how hard those things are. Hope you be good and solve that in the best way man!
TonyTenner
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What a couple of people here have hinted at, but isn't stressed enough, is how much you have to look forward to. Once your read the Rational Male and delve into these forums, you'll find situations like you're in much easier to deal with (most likely you'll never find yourself in this situation again). You'll probably feel grief for your old ideas of idealised love. But after a few months of reading RP material, you'll naturally start to detach from those ideas. And the situation you find yourself in can be dealt with in a matter-of-fact manner.
At 28, you're in a much better position than her. If you read these forums, work on yourself, don't go down the hating-women road some do, the world will be your oyster. As someone above said, it won't be easy, but most things worth having don't come easy.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Delete. Block. Next.
Go focus your energy on new women. When the milk goes bad no matter how much you hope or want it to taste good again, it will never be good again.
Baibars
Master Don Juan
She does exactly the same things my ex does. Fck that ***** and work on yourself. She was never yours it was just your turn. The longer you stick to her you longer stay a failure and the longer your suffering. You're her last choice right now. Not like she's something special but keep that in mind. Consume more Red pill stuff and you'll be over that and you'll be a different person. But only if you start now. Cut contact
Personally I think any girls that sends naked pictures should be shared and posted on the internet as a reminder to how dumb she is. Let her future kids or future bf see that $hit.
bat soup
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That depends. Can you control your emotions?
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Baibars
Master Don Juan
I don't think that he should have sex with her in the Position he is right now. He is emotionally attached. She spins him as a plate and he seems to have no options. They just broke up.
He has to work on himself so he never ever gets in this position again. Work on his body, mind just everything.
I agree.
However the only exception would be if he has rough angry sex with her, chokes her, slaps her, spits on her. A2M, anal, finish in her mouth after sticking it in the pooper. Then look her straight in her eyes and tell her "B1tch, I never wanna see you again." LOL
yes, looks like im her plate and i dont have any.
Baibars
Master Don Juan
Just do what you have to do. It's natural that she had already someone lined up ( probably not only one ) because it's far easier for women. Even the ugliest girl can do that as long as she has a vagina there will be someone waiting for her. Men have to do the work especially after a break up you're not in your best condition you know that.
Don't look for excuses so you can talk to her. Find ways how you can sort that sh*t out asap.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Baibars
Master Don Juan
Same thing happened to me just ignore her and if she continues sending pointless stuff Block her.
That's normal. She sees you as beta and uses you for attention. She sends you this pic and bangs some other guys. Don't play her game.
Of course you did mistakes in your relationship like she did. She tells you your mistakes because she wants to confirm her decision about leaving you. If you fall for that and apologize or beg her back etc. that will also confirm her decision.
She will never get back with you and even if she gives you a chance.. she won't do it because of you but because of her being dumped by some guy and her need for security. And even then she will use you and upgrade asap. Dont allow her to send you anything pointless. No pics no Text. Dont even make that possible shes out.