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Power in a relationship and ultimatums about marriage etc

metalwater

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What kind of comments are said?
Disrespectful ones. Can be about almost any topic.

Allways something about sex. either she is complaining/avoid, playing dead, or selfish. A common theme and a simple way to understand and measure.

Always the man is in doubt/question about what the issue is.

Usually, man can not figure out what he is doing wrong. Because usually, he is doing nothing wrong.
 

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Disrespectful ones. Can be about almost any topic.
I'd like to hear some of the disrespectful comments. I know they will invalidate the current bf/husband to man while validating someone else. The group has no clue if it's the truth or exaggeration.


Allways something about sex. either she is complaining/avoid, playing dead, or selfish. A common theme and a simple way to understand and measure.
She will tell her girls or the group that she's avoiding, playing dead or giving really bad sex to the husband or bf, trying to figure out when he will "get it"?

Always the man is in doubt/question about what the issue is.

Usually, man can not figure out what he is doing wrong. Because usually, he is doing nothing wrong.
Agree. Like you said, someone else might have caught her fancy. Or simply her fantasy of how things are supposed to be and some "dream" guy. The females love to have something to gossip about to the group. So as a man, we need to be out there conquering life, staying active in those hobbies that take time from her, oh and a man who occasionally cheats will be looked at better than a man whose completely predictable and boring. I sweat to god, sometimes they literally want you to cheat.

Give yourself something to respect. Know the type of female your with. I swear, some of them literally NEED to be cheated on.... They will act better. I have a legit personal story about that "NEED" to be cheated on...
 

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You cannot fight against a woman whose clock is ticking. If you don't give her what she wants then I guarantee that she'll be gone within 6 months, and she'll be looking for some poor chump to monkey branch to the minute you tell her no.
Always remember this gents. If she's anywhere in her early to mid 30's, there's a high chance of this and if you don't want kids, get this convo over the first time you meet her so you're not wasting your time. Or just factor in that this will be a temporary relationship at most if you don't plan on having kids and have fun while it lasts.
 

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When a women sets ultimatums about marriage having children and buying property together how does a man regain the power without agreeing to such demmands if it’s not war he wants. Is the only option to walk away and start a fresh with someone else? I’m not sure I’m ever cut out for such commitments
When a girl sets ultimatums in a relationship she is setting up for control or a fight. Women love conflict in relationships, it is the reason 93% of fights between couples, are picked by the female. Females love conflict.

Now ask yourself would she like it if you set ultimatums with her? Probably not. She would call that unreasonable, she would say you are being controlling, abusive.

Suddenly you would be the bad guy, it would be bad behaviour, but for some reason we skip bad behaviour in woman too many times. We make excuses for it and it only gets worse and worse.

When they resort to ultimatums you dump them immediately. No exceptions. Then watch them back peddle and try to smooth things over when they realize you have a backbone.

Guys i always preach this, " never reward her bad behaviour. You are asking for trouble if you do.
 

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good job. why do they want a house, is it really that they plan to take it, or is it a status competition with other women? clearly other dudes will not care if she owns a house or not...
In my opinion, it's instinctual, and has more to do with feeling safe and secure. Women don't have the ability to defend themselves from physical attack and traditionally they stayed at home not building a career, so if the relationship ended or the man died she would be out on the street with no way to make ends meet. And I don't think it has to do with any nefarious plans of taking it if the relationship sours if she is a good person. A man should be vetting against this from day one.

Status competition is a human trait, but personally I stay far away from women who act like this. Unless she's out there making tons of her own money and paying for it herself without going into unreasonable debt, any woman who needs and/or demands to have a nicer house or car than her friends or neighbors is BAD news and you should never live with her.
 

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In my opinion, it's instinctual, and has more to do with feeling safe and secure. Women don't have the ability to defend themselves from physical attack and traditionally they stayed at home not building a career, so if the relationship ended or the man died she would be out on the street with no way to make ends meet. And I don't think it has to do with any nefarious plans of taking it if the relationship sours if she is a good person. A man should be vetting against this from day one.

Status competition is a human trait, but personally I stay far away from women who act like this. Unless she's out there making tons of her own money and paying for it herself without going into unreasonable debt, any woman who needs and/or demands to have a nicer house or car than her friends or neighbors is BAD news and you should never live with her.
Once again, those are modern day "Bathshebas". It's a type that will NEVER be happy, and it's destroyed millions of men in this country alone. Man should NEVER lead with is wallet. Man must always ensure "giving" is equally yoked.
 
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