"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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- Thread starter onyx
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
But then you will look better with big delts, chest, lats and tris+bis. But don't just train those muscles.
Alpine
Master Don Juan
The flipside is changing your posture also helps the way you feel.
Read up, or better still do an evening class in yoga, pilates and particularly the Alexander technique.
The bonus is you always get a few Babes on these things and quite often dancers (my fave). Then ask them to describe how they feel when they are doing it.
I do martial arts as well and my posture was still terrible until I did the Alexander technique, it's very much about body awarness and I'd recomend it to anyone.
There is also research that shows people subconsciously age you by your posture and gait as well as the way you look. For oldies like me they think I'm 20
, well thirty something maybe.Bulldog6971
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.