"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
But then you will look better with big delts, chest, lats and tris+bis. But don't just train those muscles.
Alpine
Master Don Juan
The flipside is changing your posture also helps the way you feel.
Read up, or better still do an evening class in yoga, pilates and particularly the Alexander technique.
The bonus is you always get a few Babes on these things and quite often dancers (my fave). Then ask them to describe how they feel when they are doing it.
I do martial arts as well and my posture was still terrible until I did the Alexander technique, it's very much about body awarness and I'd recomend it to anyone.
There is also research that shows people subconsciously age you by your posture and gait as well as the way you look. For oldies like me they think I'm 20
, well thirty something maybe.Bulldog6971
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.