You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Read it again then.amoka said:Similar thread has been posted. No need for double post. BTW, I don't know about you but my next resolution is not going to be for 2006 but rather for 2007
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Wow were do I start...PRMoon said:Almost two months into the year....discipline is the key
1) Going to the Gym every day at 7:00am, workin way hard
2) Still only drinking 3 times a week tops
3) Paid the IRS some back tax money and had them remove a lette from my credit report. Putting some money into a Roth IRA account (retirement's going to be a *****)
4) Trying out some new tequniques, lines, and locations (club season started feburary and I'm freshening up my connections) hard to tell if my game's gotten much better.
5) Prelude got sold from under me, ended up with the Celica GTS.
6) My room mate comes to the gym with me at 7:00am we train there now, the garage has been converted into a work shop.
7) Accepting calls from too much riff raff, blowing off shady people who ask or give me there number.
8) Still mainly eating fish, soy 3 times a week, vegetables 7, less milk, no red meat, no chicken, some lean turkey, no soda, low carb juice and V8.
9) Contacting some of the people who emailed and called me about my resume.
10) ...staying in vegas a few more months cause i got a promotion at my job...florida you're still on borrowed time. I'm comin for ya biatch!!
Capt.Jack Sparrow said:It was too eat a 12 by 12 from In n Out.. sorry for those of you who dont know what In n Out is its only in California and neveda.. but god damn it ended up kicked my arse
honestly though I dont remember what the resolution was I made because I was drunk
Livinlifehard said:IN AND OUT ****ING ROCKS!!! i moved from vegas and missed it every day, now i am back... i miss bojangles on the south east coast though.