"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Post your resolutions for 2006 and tell us which ones you've kept.
- Thread starter Ice Cold
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Abbott
Master Don Juan
You can call this cheating, but I made goals that I figured that are easy, but not effortless. I figure that way I have a very good, but not perfect chance of completing them.
I also made a list that I posted near my door, so I'll see it nearly every day.
My resolutions for 2006 were:
1. Style: Cuss and swear less (can eliminate, but not necessary to satisfy resolution).
2. Plan: Figure out what I'm doing to do after Graduation from Junior College.
3. Money: Don't gamble during 2006.
4. Fun: Consume a $50 bottle of wine in a single night, no sharing allowed (have to drink the whole bottle, every drop).
5. Education: Complete my program at the Junior College in December (of 2006).
Let's see. Item One is the only subjective item on the list. All the others are objective, either I did them, or I didn't.
Success:
Item One: I feel that I have succeeded. It's difficult to evaluate, but I succeeded. Occasionally I still cuss, though not so much. However, it'll be very difficult to not cuss at all.
Item Three: Believe it or not this one was very easy. I didn't feel tempted at all, and no one offered if I wanted to play poker (the way I most often gambled with money). I never offered to others if I they wanted to play poker.
Item Four: Very easy. I was at a bar with a fairly good wine selection. I picked out a wine, whipped out the fantastic plastic (credit card), and started drinking it. That day I didn't have any other drinks before the wine just to be safe.
Item Five: I didn't think this would've been a problem, though I decided it was a good goal anyway. I completed the last of my classes, and I even got an A in each one. However, those particular classes were easy for me, though not necessarily for others.
Failures:
Item Two: I haven't yet figured out what to do. Now as a result of my tardiness in planning, I'm now stuck with taking no classes at all this Spring. This is terrible since A) I NEED to get a four year degree, and then think about a Master's, and B) I'm not getting any younger (I'm 21, and starting to feel that time is of the essence). The only thing that would exempt me from this is to win the lottery, invest, and live off the money. However, the odds of that happening don't even begin to approach nil.
This is due primarily to my reluctance to make plans that I can't be sure that I'm capable of executing. In theory is one thing, but in practice is another. The biggest issue is how to secure some job in the new town, since getting jobs have always been the hardest damn thing I've ever attempted. Filling out applications for schools, leasing an apartment, getting a new driver's license, etc. is easy. If I initiate those processes they will happen, guaranteed. There's no subjectivity.
There is a local university here, but I know that if I stay in this town I will NOT be happy. I won't explain why here, because then I'd derail the thread.
Overall:
I think I did pretty well, though I wasn't perfect. But then again, except for Item Two, I didn't choose any difficult goals.
2006 is not yet over, though it nearly is. Right now I just need to figure out what I'm going to do New Year's Eve, since I plan to go out of town and I don't know what I'm going to do if I get drunk (which I might).
It's possible, though not likely, that I can still satisfy Item Two in the next week. However, that's not likely, as I have more short-term concerns, such as New Year's Eve.
How about you? Did any of you complete all or most of your resolutions?
Abbott
Master Don Juan
Ben
avrilishot
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Capt.Jack Sparrow
Master Don Juan
honestly though I dont remember what the resolution was I made because I was drunk
PRMoon
Master Don Juan
Wow were do I start...PRMoon said:
1) I Don't work out EVERYDAY because I need rest periods. I am on solid workout plan and it shows.
2) I definately blew this one. I've actually gotten significantly worse in terms of drinking. I really need to focus on this one for next year.
3) This one's resolved. I'm doing well finacially and have several retirement plans in place.
4) It's hard to say if my game's gotten any better. I don't have any stardards to judge by. If anything I'm more tired then I was this time last year from spending so much time in the game.
5) I still have my celica. I want a new car but I'm not sure which one yet.
6) My room mate skipped town then came back. He's not my room mate anymore
7) I've gotten rid of alot of the shady people in my life, only to find newer even shadier people. I really need to work on meeting more quality people.
8) My diet is awesome end of story.
9) Love my jobs and only look for more work within my company.
10) I've decided to reside in Las Vegas for the duration. Sorry Miami, I love you but I'm a Vegas boy through and through. I'm getting a house here and I plan on staying.
Livinlifehard
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Capt.Jack Sparrow said:
IN AND OUT ****ING ROCKS!!! i moved from vegas and missed it every day, now i am back... i miss bojangles on the south east coast though.
Capt.Jack Sparrow
Master Don Juan
Livinlifehard said:
Bonjangles? Nope dunno what it is ;(
but yeah In n Out is heaven for me... mmm just thinking about it..
thanks a$$hole you got me hungry, im gonna go get some in n out :kick: