Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Read it again then.amoka said:Similar thread has been posted. No need for double post. BTW, I don't know about you but my next resolution is not going to be for 2006 but rather for 2007
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Wow were do I start...PRMoon said:Almost two months into the year....discipline is the key
1) Going to the Gym every day at 7:00am, workin way hard
2) Still only drinking 3 times a week tops
3) Paid the IRS some back tax money and had them remove a lette from my credit report. Putting some money into a Roth IRA account (retirement's going to be a *****)
4) Trying out some new tequniques, lines, and locations (club season started feburary and I'm freshening up my connections) hard to tell if my game's gotten much better.
5) Prelude got sold from under me, ended up with the Celica GTS.
6) My room mate comes to the gym with me at 7:00am we train there now, the garage has been converted into a work shop.
7) Accepting calls from too much riff raff, blowing off shady people who ask or give me there number.
8) Still mainly eating fish, soy 3 times a week, vegetables 7, less milk, no red meat, no chicken, some lean turkey, no soda, low carb juice and V8.
9) Contacting some of the people who emailed and called me about my resume.
10) ...staying in vegas a few more months cause i got a promotion at my job...florida you're still on borrowed time. I'm comin for ya biatch!!
Capt.Jack Sparrow said:It was too eat a 12 by 12 from In n Out.. sorry for those of you who dont know what In n Out is its only in California and neveda.. but god damn it ended up kicked my arse
honestly though I dont remember what the resolution was I made because I was drunk
Livinlifehard said:IN AND OUT ****ING ROCKS!!! i moved from vegas and missed it every day, now i am back... i miss bojangles on the south east coast though.