"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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When you do mental math are you much better than even smart people?
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No joke, at a previous job my coworkers would call me the human calculator because I'd do the math in my head and tell people the answer before a person who was using a calculator could punch in the numbers.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
CornbreadFed
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I have met a lot of grind/book smart people and I have met a few actually high IQ people. You can definitely tell the difference between the two.
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I'm a himbo with minus 165 in IQ but I look like Chad thunderc0ck so I get by fine.
Ha ha.With hard work and tenacity you will get to 200. Just do it bro. lol.I'm a himbo with minus 165 in IQ but I look like Chad thunderc0ck so I get by fine.
Then test him
That is quite amazing. That means you have good memory too. Can you visualize stuff in your brain like an animation?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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Sometimes yes...I often can see code like that in my head as I am working to solve programming issues or doing bug fixes.
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I can easily do this and calculate equations in my head, so it just proves my point how irrelevant your IQ score is lol.
Maybe you have an high IQ score
AureliusMaximus
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I have a shiitty memory. There is the memory palace method to keep more things in my mind but it does not work with me. Did you ever try stuff like that?
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
For most things in life having an iq of 100 ( which is like slightly above average ) is more than enough
The higher the iq level after that, the more you will go towards the “autistic” side
Most of the wealthy people are not geniuses. Look at bill gates, he made most of the money from parenting software that he did not write
Not even Steve Jobs had a big iq
Seems like there are sometimes trade offs in the brain where some brain functions are bit weaker.
So you are at MENSA that is awesome. Maybe some members hava a chip on their shoulder and migh be to focused on even getting more smarter so social skills get worse. If they might focus on social skills they may get better at it but may diminish in other areas slightly.
Though when we look at Elon Musk it seems like he knows quite a lot stuff and learns new stuff from different fields very fast. People who know him tell that.
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All it means is that you have to work at different things harder than a person with a lower IQ.
I used to get A's in school barely studying or opening a book. Lower IQ people had to study their asses off to get B's or C's sometimes.
I had to work very hard to come out of my introvert shell and learn how to be extroverted when I need to be and be social and learn how to talk with women. That was very difficult for me and I had to work really hard at it. Being in sales was the best thing that happened in that regard...you learn how to interact with people or you don't eat. Forces you to learn and adapt really quick. For some of the other lower IQ people it came easy.
You never have to accept where you are at in life with anything. All this means is that each person will have to work harder at certain things than other things to improve at them, whereas those things come easy for other people.
Now, you may never get to a point where you are as good as someone who it comes naturally to no matter how hard you work at it, but there is no reason you can't greatly improve from where you are at currently.
Lets take golf for example. You might never be a PGA Tour Pro, but if you went out every week and played 4 rounds of golf religiously for a year, you'd notice a huge improvement from where you are now to where you'd be in a year. It's like that with anything in life. If you focus your time and energy on improving in that area, you will improve.
How seriously you take it and how focused you are on doing whatever it takes to improve is usually what separates those who make marked improvement versus those who see little improvement.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.