"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Possible to gain muscle mass without equipment?

Grimple

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I can't afford any weight equipment or gym membership. I go to high school and don't have a car. My school has a weight room but it is reserved for weights class and football. (I was stupid and didn't think about joining weights when I signed up for classes.)

Now I want to gain muscle because I am really skinny. I have been doing pushups (I can do 26-2 max) and pulls ups. I can do about 11 regular pullups and only 3 palm out pull ups. I don't really see any gain in mass though.

Everyone tells me heavy weight + low repitions = muscle mass. But I have no way of getting "heavy weight" due to my lack of access to muscle building machines.

So is there anything that I can do? Or am I ****ed? Can I do just body weight exercises? Please help!
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Warboss Alex

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Grimple said:
I can't afford any weight equipment or gym membership. I go to high school and don't have a car. My school has a weight room but it is reserved for weights class and football. (I was stupid and didn't think about joining weights when I signed up for classes.)

Now I want to gain muscle because I am really skinny. I have been doing pushups (I can do 26-2 max) and pulls ups. I can do about 11 regular pullups and only 3 palm out pull ups. I don't really see any gain in mass though.

Everyone tells me heavy weight + low repitions = muscle mass. But I have no way of getting "heavy weight" due to my lack of access to muscle building machines.

So is there anything that I can do? Or am I ****ed? Can I do just body weight exercises? Please help!
Hate to tell you this, but you can't gain muscle without progressive resistance (weights).

Do you have access to buckets/sand/cement? You can make ghetto weights, that's how I started, lol.

But ultimately, you need access to a wide range of weights. Ask your parents for a home gym for Christmas? Save up? Get a job?
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Just get a used set of weights and/or bench, the kind made of plastic (they're cheap). Check you local paper or Craigslist, you may even be able to find a set for free if you just pick them up.
 

spesmilitis

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Check your:

YMCA
Community college (mine had a 'fitness' class where all you do is punch in your time card whenever you would use their gym)
Appartment, friends apartments, random apartments that may have a fitness center.
Community center

Try doing track and field (short distance only), and wrestling. It won't anywhere as efficient as weight lifting, but you'll bulk up some muscel.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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cuzza

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Without any equipment and if you can't be arsed with the 'ghetto weights' (haha), then you won't really get very far. All I can think of really is...

Pullups, wide grip and close grip. Variations of it.
Dips, by finding two things that'll support your weight... I could do them on my kitchen top if I want.

Can't think of anything else, but what's been said will do: Back, biceps, forearms, chest, triceps... practically your upper body. It might not do them particularly well, but it beats nothing.
 

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Check out The Naked Warrior By Pavel. His website is www.dragondoor.com. He has a few other books that focus on strength. He suggests doing one legged squats(pistols), pullups and one armed pushups basically. He tells you how to work up to it so you are using progressive weight up until you can do an actual rep of the one legged or one armed pushups and then you need weight on your back, etc. Not sure its the best for mass but it'll definitely make you fitter and stronger.

Celadus
 
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