"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Poon King got banned?
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
mrgoodstuff
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I agree. For someone partaking in multi-dating or plates, all you had to do is listen to him. He had the formula.
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mrgoodstuff
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The word "faggot" was to get you to stop thinking in the poor way that you where (IE: getting phvcked in the a$$ by HER). It was to motivate one, and if you didn't agree with his message you could very well not listen to him.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
sazc
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Hopefully he will stop calling people names. Mind you, I have ZERO beef with his content. In fact, I think the biggest issue people had was the constant name calling. It is unnecessary.
sazc
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Yea, great wisdom IF you agreed with him and thought LTRs were carp. Otherwise you were all sorts of ugly names.
Im all for what you guys are trying to accomplish here. Its necessary. But this is a community. Y'all don't have to agree, but at least be respectful (that's my chick taking right there
)Wow. This site does not ban men posting about:
- being emotionally abused by women,
- being taken advantage of by women
- being laughed at by women
- saving women
- spending all your money on women
- having your life completely destroyed by women
but the best poster ever uses colour language that helps almost everyone on sosuave, that is too much? Either his posts hit too close to home for moderators or sosuave doesn't care about helping men, its a "feel good about yourself" site. I often wonder how you guys survive in the real world.
Brutal.
kenpiffyjr
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
sazc
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No, I dont think you disagreed with lefty, it appeared as if you missed missed that he said it was temporary.You don't think that I disagreed with him before?
I have argued with him. We are both arseholes in our way.
Who cares? Value is value.
You called me names before too. You think I hold it against you?
Some guys merely don't like the ego challenge of someone like that. They don't realise that challenge is good for their game.
Suspending him is really not good. If it's a week or whatever, then fine.
If it's longer, then the frame of this website is determined by the frame of it's posters.
And that guy's frame was damn useful to have around here.
I think a lot of people are here to learn and by calling them beta faggots you put them on the defensive and nothing productive occurs after that.
I think Poon has a lot of wisdom and he could certainly help guide people. He just prefers to take their inventory when they dont agree that spinning plates is the only way to be. The conversation gets shut down before much productivity can be had.
Maybe a solution is to have two sub forums, one for LTRs and one for Plating, and then the general forum where everything is open for fair discussion. I just think things should be kept productive. You guys should be helping each other as much as possible (there I go having estrogen again!)
sazc
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oh hell...it's about to be come a hash tag.....lol
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
ImTheDoubleGreatest!
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ImTheDoubleGreatest!
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If there was one member on SS I'd sleep with, it'd definitely be me. I already won myself over though and have been sleeping with myself for almost 18 years. feelsgoodman
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Count me in as one of his supporters.
sazc
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Lol, I called you "Barney Fife" a few times, not "beta faggot" over and over and over.
And, if I'm being honest, I'm still betting on Barney
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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