Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
http://www.jbspencer.com/djb/CuriousGirl said:Who is Pook? I've heard his username thrown around a lot on here. And OP, easy on the commas!![]()
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Do you know why I never post topics related to how to pick up women? It's because I've read these books. What drives me fvcking ape**** is the guys who come straight to the forums asking "hurrrrr what did I do wrong". I want to scream "READ THE ****ING DJ BIBLE MORON". You can usually tell they never have. It really should be a requirement before signup.SandHawk said:Well, it would have been a very good reason to be honest. Most people on these boards nowadays don't read the bible, the book of pook or anti-dump.
And when they post a question and people respond with a reply that they don't seem to like or is too confronting, they get all defensive and ignore whatever advice was given.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
the DJ bible is acutally not very obvious to new people to find it (you dont naturally look at the bottom of the page much) it needs to be clearly explained on a sticky on the main forum... someone needs to create a good quality sticky thread for it!SandHawk said:Well, it would have been a very good reason to be honest. Most people on these boards nowadays don't read the bible, the book of pook or anti-dump.
And when they post a question and people respond with a reply that they don't seem to like or is too confronting, they get all defensive and ignore whatever advice was given.
Roissy's articles, somehow, give me some sense of hopelessness and unavoidable doom about my situation. Somehow, he comes across for me as saying that busting your ass trying to get better with women and in life using game can only get you so far and, if you're a extreme case, there's pretty much no hope for you to even hit big leagues because you're a stinking dreg that is more likely to commit suicide than score by getting lucky.If you want to read someone current who is Pook like in terms of breaking down women's behaviours and tells you why they do what they do, I highly recommand reading Roissy's blog
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.