"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Poll: Place your Votes on Censorship!
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
digitalrat
Senior Don Juan
This was for testing purposes only.
This was for educational purposes only I repeat.
CableLight
Master Don Juan
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
At any rate, I promise I will behave! It's just so hard not to say fukk in everything I post, but I will try to keep my Turret's Syndrome under control. Fair enough? It would be cool to have my old screen name back but, whatever.
Kind of ironic that the poster of the censor thread gets banned. hehe, at least I can laugh at myself!
Look, in a forum that has, say, a thousand visitors (where prolly only 4 or 500 people will post), then it's all fine and dandy to cuss like sailors. But here at sosuave, we have over 8000 registered users and there is a ton of posting going on here every day. If the mods, primarily allen, didn't do everything they could to keep this board in order, it would plunge into chaos. Cencorship may not be a huge thing, but it does contribute.
For example, if you are into martial arts you may know of a forum called sherdog, there, the mods do a very poor job of keeping things in order and, aside from posting 20 or 30 times a day, they seem quite lazy. At sherdog, there was about 12000 registered users last time i checked, more than there are here but it's still in the same ballpark. People, if you've ever gone to these forums you'd know that the mods are less strict than allen, and the penalty? Well, when one person disagrees with another, it usually takes about 5 seconds before it turns into "**** YOU YOU ****ING **** **** **** FACE ****ER GO **** YOUR MOMMA'S TITTIES AND SHOOT YOURSELF YOU WORTHLES ****ING **** ****!!!!"
I'm sure Allen knows that guys like blitz and gio can swear responsibly, and if there were no rules here, I'm sure they could still remain responsible posters. But I shudder to think about what would happen to these boards if the thousands of less mature posters started abusing the whole "no rules" thing.
I don't know how much cencorship contributes to the order of things around here, but things are still in order and as long as things stay that way I'm not going to ask for any changes in the way allen runs this board.
digitalrat
Senior Don Juan
Ditto. But, I don't see any ads and this site is on a nice connection. It doesnt lag that much and its rarely down. I will put up with the censors for no ads and a slow server.
Smooth as Anything
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Bungo Pony
Master Don Juan
That's my theory anyway.