"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Poll: Place your Votes on Censorship!
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
digitalrat
Senior Don Juan
This was for testing purposes only.
This was for educational purposes only I repeat.
CableLight
Master Don Juan
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
At any rate, I promise I will behave! It's just so hard not to say fukk in everything I post, but I will try to keep my Turret's Syndrome under control. Fair enough? It would be cool to have my old screen name back but, whatever.
Kind of ironic that the poster of the censor thread gets banned. hehe, at least I can laugh at myself!
Look, in a forum that has, say, a thousand visitors (where prolly only 4 or 500 people will post), then it's all fine and dandy to cuss like sailors. But here at sosuave, we have over 8000 registered users and there is a ton of posting going on here every day. If the mods, primarily allen, didn't do everything they could to keep this board in order, it would plunge into chaos. Cencorship may not be a huge thing, but it does contribute.
For example, if you are into martial arts you may know of a forum called sherdog, there, the mods do a very poor job of keeping things in order and, aside from posting 20 or 30 times a day, they seem quite lazy. At sherdog, there was about 12000 registered users last time i checked, more than there are here but it's still in the same ballpark. People, if you've ever gone to these forums you'd know that the mods are less strict than allen, and the penalty? Well, when one person disagrees with another, it usually takes about 5 seconds before it turns into "**** YOU YOU ****ING **** **** **** FACE ****ER GO **** YOUR MOMMA'S TITTIES AND SHOOT YOURSELF YOU WORTHLES ****ING **** ****!!!!"
I'm sure Allen knows that guys like blitz and gio can swear responsibly, and if there were no rules here, I'm sure they could still remain responsible posters. But I shudder to think about what would happen to these boards if the thousands of less mature posters started abusing the whole "no rules" thing.
I don't know how much cencorship contributes to the order of things around here, but things are still in order and as long as things stay that way I'm not going to ask for any changes in the way allen runs this board.
digitalrat
Senior Don Juan
Ditto. But, I don't see any ads and this site is on a nice connection. It doesnt lag that much and its rarely down. I will put up with the censors for no ads and a slow server.
Smooth as Anything
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Bungo Pony
Master Don Juan
That's my theory anyway.