Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
digitalrat
Senior Don Juan
This was for testing purposes only.
This was for educational purposes only I repeat.
CableLight
Master Don Juan
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
At any rate, I promise I will behave! It's just so hard not to say fukk in everything I post, but I will try to keep my Turret's Syndrome under control. Fair enough? It would be cool to have my old screen name back but, whatever.
Kind of ironic that the poster of the censor thread gets banned. hehe, at least I can laugh at myself!
Look, in a forum that has, say, a thousand visitors (where prolly only 4 or 500 people will post), then it's all fine and dandy to cuss like sailors. But here at sosuave, we have over 8000 registered users and there is a ton of posting going on here every day. If the mods, primarily allen, didn't do everything they could to keep this board in order, it would plunge into chaos. Cencorship may not be a huge thing, but it does contribute.
For example, if you are into martial arts you may know of a forum called sherdog, there, the mods do a very poor job of keeping things in order and, aside from posting 20 or 30 times a day, they seem quite lazy. At sherdog, there was about 12000 registered users last time i checked, more than there are here but it's still in the same ballpark. People, if you've ever gone to these forums you'd know that the mods are less strict than allen, and the penalty? Well, when one person disagrees with another, it usually takes about 5 seconds before it turns into "**** YOU YOU ****ING **** **** **** FACE ****ER GO **** YOUR MOMMA'S TITTIES AND SHOOT YOURSELF YOU WORTHLES ****ING **** ****!!!!"
I'm sure Allen knows that guys like blitz and gio can swear responsibly, and if there were no rules here, I'm sure they could still remain responsible posters. But I shudder to think about what would happen to these boards if the thousands of less mature posters started abusing the whole "no rules" thing.
I don't know how much cencorship contributes to the order of things around here, but things are still in order and as long as things stay that way I'm not going to ask for any changes in the way allen runs this board.
digitalrat
Senior Don Juan
Ditto. But, I don't see any ads and this site is on a nice connection. It doesnt lag that much and its rarely down. I will put up with the censors for no ads and a slow server.
Smooth as Anything
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Bungo Pony
Master Don Juan
That's my theory anyway.