"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Poll : is this a 9 or a 10 ?

is this a 9 or a 10 ?


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Lookatu

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I said this before 5"11 is solid

On average, women say a romantic partner 5’3” or shorter is generally too short for comfort, while a partner 6’3” or taller is too tall, and the “ideal” height for a man is 5’11”. The survey also finds that for the average British man, a partner becomes too short at 4’11” and too tall at 6’. The ideal height for a woman, according to the average man, is 5’6”
It's sad that male's fragile ego's has them hamstering about height. I bet women don't nearly hamster as much about weight themselves. Any gal that is less than 5'8" that asks about height is automatically disqualified in my books.

I've been out with some gals that were an inch or two taller than me. It really doesn't matter when you're in the horizontal position. That's what I tell them too.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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zekko

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On average, women say a romantic partner 5’3” or shorter is generally too short for comfort, while a partner 6’3” or taller is too tall, and the “ideal” height for a man is 5’11”. The survey also finds that for the average British man, a partner becomes too short at 4’11” and too tall at 6’. The ideal height for a woman, according to the average man, is 5’6”
5'6" is a nice height for a woman, I'd have to agree with that. My preference would probably be 5'4" to 5'6", but it's nowhere close to being a dealbreaker. I don't think height for women is as big of an attraction factor as it is for men, I doubt if anyone will disagree with that. Maybe if a woman is freakishly tall it comes into play.
 

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On my own personal scale, she'd be a 5. Oh, now I know that for most men, she's the bee's knees, but I like a feminine physique where the shoulders aren't too wide, and the ratio of waist to hips is low, so she would not do it for me. Now if these characteristics were considered to be not be a negative, then she's a 10 based on very good facial beauty and exceptional fitness. To me, she would be the kind of gal that wouldn't be embarrassing in the last to have around, and would definitely suffice to other women as being super hot (i.e., a man that has shown the ability to get that would be considered very high value by other women).

I go for women that I have the exact characteristics that I find most attractive, but that other man might not, which to me optimizes my getability. An extreme case of this would be a man that *genuintely* likes fatties - because so many other men are disgusted by this, such a man would optimize his getability by going for fatties.
 

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she looks like your typical women who exercise to much. solid 8. if she stopped the gym routine for a few months and just ate well she probably bump up to a 9.
Because so many women exercise too much? :rolleyes: :rolleyes: :rolleyes:
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I said this before 5"11 is solid

On average, women say a romantic partner 5’3” or shorter is generally too short for comfort, while a partner 6’3” or taller is too tall, and the “ideal” height for a man is 5’11”. The survey also finds that for the average British man, a partner becomes too short at 4’11” and too tall at 6’. The ideal height for a woman, according to the average man, is 5’6”
I'm 6'2'' and women love my height. There is no "ideal height". As long as you're charming, any imperfection seems to fade in their eyes.
 

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You guys I am curious to have your opinion on this chick from all side


She is all over this Youtube channel half naked in every position
SwimOutletGear

Pretty, but with you guys I don't know what's good anymore.
 

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I would put her in the 7 - 8 category however I can't really judge that well from the pictures. She's a slim chick but attractive. Definitely sexable.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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